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Barmeyoldbat Sun 14-Oct-18 10:25:23

You need to lay down the law and have a strong word with him or ban him from visiting until he obeys your rules. Like a naughty child springs to mind.

morningdew Sun 14-Oct-18 09:35:56

put your foot down , if that was my son I would say jokingly f you persist in trimming my trees which I don't want I will be lopping off a certain part of your anatomy ,..., that should cure him ..

Saggi Sun 14-Oct-18 09:33:29

Your his mother ....remind him of his manners!!

sunseeker Sun 14-Oct-18 09:11:22

Thank him for "trimming" the trees, tell him you think they have been trimmed enough and would he please now start on the ivy

sluttygran Sun 14-Oct-18 09:09:10

grin Jalima

Jalima1108 Sat 13-Oct-18 16:12:15

Has he got a woodburning stove?

Eloethan Sat 13-Oct-18 16:11:59

It sounds like he's a very nice man and he thinks he's being helpful but it is rather insensitive and patronising to, in effect, dictate what happens in your own house and garden.

Tell him more firmly that you want him to leave the trees alone. And you are right, little mats at doors are not a good idea for people who have mobility issues (of for anyone really as it's easy to trip on them). Just put them away somewhere.

Alexa Sat 13-Oct-18 14:49:56

Lemongrove, I have wondered why he does this. He also placed little mats at front and back door although I explained they are a hazard for my walking frame. This son is very sympathetic and affectionate and has been literally a life saver during my recent back injury. Everybody loves him.

Jalima1108 Sat 13-Oct-18 14:35:43

Is he a tree surgeon - or a wood butcher as DH would call him?

sodapop Sat 13-Oct-18 14:25:11

Good idea stree you really need to be firm on this one Alexa I don't think resorting to hiding the tools should be necessary. I have perfected ' the look ' which my children and grandchildren know means business.

Baggs Sat 13-Oct-18 14:19:34

He needs a right rollicking. Any offspring of mine that did something like that would certainly get one. I like stree's idea.

stree Sat 13-Oct-18 14:12:09

Make a bargain with him: For every cut he makes, you are allowed one on something of his........T- shirt in half, mouse cable, page from a book.etc.
But honestly, just exert your authority! Your property not his!

BlueBelle Sat 13-Oct-18 13:17:59

Why would you let anyone in your garden to decimate your shrubs? Does he live with you ?
None of my children would dream of walking into my house or garden and start doing something that hadn’t been asked
Where are your boundaries ?

lemongrove Sat 13-Oct-18 13:15:24

Why is he doing this if you have asked him not to?
Say it again, a bit more forcefully, they are your trees after all.

Alexa Sat 13-Oct-18 13:13:42

One of my sons persists in cutting small branches off my trees although I've asked him not to do so. His ideas of pruning are not the same as mine and I really do care about my little trees. His former partner complained to me about this same thing. I have hidden the shears but the long handled shears are hard to hide. If only he would cut back the overgrown ivy instead but no it's the ornamental trees he feels need to be tidied up,even the ones that are supposed to droop and weep.