Arriving “empty handed”. Parallelling *mawbroon*’s post

Strikes me that there are an awful lot of ill-mannered people around. Up their own backside ones.

I live in a suburb of London and thankfully my relatives think I live in an inaccessible place to visit. Long may they think like that- 20 minutes on a fast tube and I could be at Baker Street.

When my aunt was alive, she lived in the centre of London and was used as a free hotel and never once received a letter of thanks.

It’s incredibly rude of those guests, they may be young but are not children.
Am a little confused though, as the second lot of guests arrived ( but not the DC?) are you being used as a sort of free hotel?

This is all too common, I’m afraid. Like others have said, I would consider it very rude not to take a small gift, choc,or flowers when visiting.
If it’s a week end visit all three, plus wine!
When we lived in London we were a popular ‘hotel’ for family, friends and the odd distant acquaintance and also experienced the ‘guests’ taking themselves off for dinner out without us! Very rude!

Feelingmyage55- that was astoundingly rude and not to invite you and OH out for a meal with them, the very least they could do, leaves me speechless which is a very rare event.

I agree with Jane10, you should let your DC know and also tell them that these young folk will not be welcome at your house ever again even if they do learn manners which I doubt.

I'm gearing up to speak to my neice about a similar situation. I could just ignore it but this casual attitude to others making an effort on their behalf could prevent her progress at work. At the very least it's preventing me from giving her more. Her loss but she doesn't know it.
Also no thanks from another member of the family for a pretty decent wedding gift. Young people today!!

Jane10. Thank you, I actually cried, a bit over reactive but I was also worried that I was being a bit old fashioned. Manners make the man I think.

How astoundingly rude Feelingmyage. I actually think you should tell your DC to pass on to their friends what you think. It's a useful life skill to be polite. No matter what profession they are in its going to be useful to say thank you and express gratitude. Otherwise they'll go through life wondering why people think the less of them.