Another new fad

I'm trying to post this empty to convey that I am speechless. Horrified. Grief-stricken even! I daren't say more I might offend.

*this is typical of younger generation parents sending all the wrong messages.
program the other day stated how many youngsters are suffering with depression any wonder phones, bad behavior on tv, facebook where is all the humor had plenty when we were younger good old days*

I don't agree with this. I'm a younger generation parent and hate this, my parents were trying to encourage me to do this as they wanted the photos to show to people. I didn't as I hated the idea of the waste.

And I don't think you can blame the amount of teens experiencing depression on current parenting either. There have always been people who have been depressed, there just seems more now as it's discussed out in the open. The same way that child abuse, cancer and autism all are more 'prevalent' these days. We talk more about depression and abuse and it's acceptable to talk about it, rather than sweep it under the rug. We can diagnose cancer and autism earlier, therefore they seem more prevalent.

There have always been parents in every generation who have poorly parented, whether currently sticking kids in front of TVs or older 'children must be seen and not heard' attitudes. However I do think this trend is very reflective of the wasteful society we live in now. I donate all DDs old items to my local baby bank, but so many others I know just bin them. Cheaper prices these days seem to have created this wasteful attitude.

How wasteful giving wrong messages to children some people have more money than sense !

How is this funny ? What is it teaching the child ? What a waste. I bet the parents would not think it acceptable if the child did it at home to food carefully prepared for a meal. Totally ridiculous.

Its not so new though - it has been going on for years. It is a waste I agree, and to encourage children to be destructive and wasteful. It is of course though whatever seems to sell these days. If photographers or videographers offer cake smash photoshoot packages to families or if parents as for them - then it is an opportunity to make money.

this is typical of younger generation parents sending all the wrong messages.
program the other day stated how many youngsters are suffering with depression any wonder phones, bad behavior on tv, facebook where is all the humor had plenty when we were younger good old days

Utterly vile! Never heard of it!
Big yuk ?

Not heard of it. Perhaps I am lucky where I live I don't know. What an awful message to give to children. Helping those with less than they have, like Food Banks is the message to send.

No I've never heard of this and I am appalled and horrified. Whatever next? I can't bear to think about it.

Ah, I hadn't thought of that! 2 cakes? I'm astounded.

My gt nieces have done this for their children - personally I think it is a silly trend but brilliant business planning on behalf of the cake makers who sell two cakes for each party instead of one!

I don't know for certain why this is a feature of some Gypsy weddings, but I assume it is a fertility rite, although probably now those who practise it do not realise this.

Wedding cake - a dry biscuit like concoction, was broken over the heads of the bride and groom before they entered their home in the Roman Empire as a way of expressing the hope that the pair would be fruitful, just as we still throw rice at weddings.

In Scotland in my childhood a small slice of wedding cake was sent in a special box by post to anyone the bride or groom knew who had not been able to attend the wedding. You made a wish as you took the first bite of the cake, and unmarried women were supposed to slip the box and cake under their pillow in order to dream of their future husband, then eat the cake in the morning.

Ritually speaking that was an inclusion rite, including the newly married pair into society, by passing out slices of cake that everyone who knew them ate - another function of wedding cakes, and indeed wedding breakfasts.

Some folk have money to waste and no brains.

For me, its less about harming the children, and just a feeling of distaste for the what seems to be falseness of the situation.
A picture of a baby tucking in to a cake and getting covered in it is cute, but this is as if more is always better.

I haven't seen this tendency yet, but for years I have been offended by the food fights that are common features in Disney films for children and teenagers.

I have no idea whether American teachers and parents allow this sort of thing, but presumably they do otherwise it wouldn't feature so often in American films or series.

Playing with food was very sternly discouraged in my family, and is still not considered acceptable behaviour in Denmark.

To me encouraging children to break things, whether food or not, is wrong and allowing them to waste food is equally as bad.

My DD arranged a Cake Smashing for my youngest GD for her first birthday. There we quite a few posed photos before the cake appeared and although it did get broken & my GD did get covered in chocolate icing, ìt wasnt cake flying everywhere. More my GD grabbing handfuls of cake with the occasional foot finding it's way into the mix. The whole session with the cake lasted around I minute before my GD found the bowl of warm soapy water. The cake, made by my daughter, suffered minimum damage and was eaten with coffee and by her siblings later that day.

My daughter and I both saw ìt as an amusing way to celebrate No 4 GCs first birthday, which it was. No photos were put on fb or other media, the photographer used some of the photos in her portfolio to help promote a new start to her career and we all ate cake and had fun.
In my opinion and with no intentionof offending anyone, bringing up food banks and starving people over a cake smash is rather like telling people not to eat cake, chocolate, party food or even eat out because so many people never get the chance. If people wish to help charities, which my DD and I do, there are several ways of doing so, while not denying our own children of fun activities.
As a side issue, No 4 GC is severely allergic to several foods, so has a higher than usual awareness of where food cokes from and it's preparation.
Having participated in a cake smash hasn't turned her into some uncaring monster. Equally, having bought and paid for the ingredients, made the cake, and eaten the remains, nothing was wasted, considering how much food is thrown away by the average household every day.

It smacks of the last days of the Roman Empire.
A total waste.

As someone who ran a celebration cake business from home & taught Sugarcraft for many years I am obviously horrified at this. I've never heard of it before.
It can take many hours of work to create a beautiful cake & the fact it gets 'smashed' is awful.
I'm sure none of my wedding cakes every came to such a sorry end but now I wonder about the children's birthday cakes I lovingly & painstakingly iced & moulded.
It has often taken me an entire day- sometimes 2 to produce things like The Deep Dark Wood with all the Gruffulo characters or the Pirate Ship in a sea with all the pirates, parrots etc. It's bad enough to see them cut let alone smashed!
What a horrible fad!
Luckily now I only do it for my grandchildren & I see them blowing out the candles & eating the cake.

This is appalling, and such a waste. The nearest we ever got to something like this for my daughter's birthday parties, was the 'flour mountain' game - a bowl of flour upturned on a plate, sweet on top, each child takes turns to cut slices of the flour away without disturbing the sweet. The one who lets the sweet fall gets the sweet by their teeth but inevitably ends up with a face covered in flour. All it cost was half a bag of flour!

I have,nt heard of this at all, what a waste of food and money, hope it does,nt really catch on. On a similar sort of theme though, on those Gypsy wedding programmes, at the reception it appears to be the tradition to pelt each other with pieces of wedding cake once the cake has been cut.
Those cakes they have are quite large and extravagant and it appears to be traditional for them to do it. Just why would you do this.?

That practice is absolutely disgusting what on earth is wrong with people doing such idiotic things ike this , I have seen people at weddings put their partners face into a cake , I tell you if my husband did that , the marriage would not go on at all I think it is call disrespectful

Waste of food and waste of money. I don't like it all, like a lot of other things these day.

I have a friend who makes beautiful cakes that are the cake version of a pinata - made to be broken but not for the child to 'face plant' in! Looks horrible and encourages bad behaviour surely?

Can you imagine , a skilled cake decorator spending hours making and decorating something gorgeous , for young children to hack it to bits and smash .How demoralizing for the maker.
I wonder why we have so many young people who don't respect things of beauty

another idea and associated stuff to sell with it .capitalism at the end of its shelf life!