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Another new fad

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pensionpat Sat 17-Nov-18 08:02:08

One which I really hate is the fashion for a “cake smash” at a very young child’s birthday party. A real cake, large and beautiful, is put on the floor, and the birthday child literally smashes it with their hands until it it completely demolished, inedible and they are covered in it. The child would have to be encouraged by adults and the whole thing is probably filmed as an amusing video on Facebook or YouTube.

Even worse, I have seen adverts for cake smash clothing.

Words fail me. Wrong on every level.

Onestepbeyond Sun 13-Jan-19 17:55:00

I have never heard of this - sounds so wasteful indeed- sad

Smurf52 Tue 04-Dec-18 23:24:20

I'd heard that in the States they have cake smash parties because up to the age of 1 babies are not given any sweets and chocolates...which culminates in this ritual.

notanan2 Fri 23-Nov-18 19:48:57

Never heard of it, but it sounds appalling. How many wrong values does that teach?

Zero, because they are usually a first birthday thing (for first borns or onlies) so the kid doesn't know whats going on anyway.

I find the idea uncomfortably wasteful but probably no more than other popular party ideas

watermeadow Fri 23-Nov-18 19:27:04

Surely another fad from America, where cakes seem to be the consistency of Instant Whip, not actual cake. In American films you see someone’s face sinking effortlessly into decorated goo. It’s probably inedible, as is the lurid roll-out icing which covers children’s birthday cakes here.

craftergran Thu 22-Nov-18 10:22:22

40-100 pounds for this nonsense? LOL They saw them coming my granny would've said

adaunas Tue 20-Nov-18 11:17:50

Jocarter, at those prices I’d make the cakes and sell them myself, despite the fact that I think it’s disgraceful. Oops, there go my principles again!

jocarter Tue 20-Nov-18 08:23:38

I have a cake maker friend and at least once every week she gets an order for a cake smashing “celebration “ people are paying between 40-100 for a cake. Such a wicked waste of food and money.

GrandmaFaye Tue 20-Nov-18 03:22:51

Mom looks like she is being vindictive or something..... strange !

Newmom101 Mon 19-Nov-18 17:40:49

..and then I would make the destructive, spoilt brat eat up every crumb to teach them a lesson

confused This is being done with 1 year olds, and their parents are choosing for them to do this. I don't agree with this but from your comment I'm assuming you've misunderstood? Because that's a very harsh way to talk about a one year old @Margs

Jalima1108 Mon 19-Nov-18 11:38:11

think its a current fashion aided by social media.
Agreed, Hilltopgran - someone found a way of parting over-indulgent, gullible parents from their money and now they are all trying to out-do each other.

Jalima1108 Mon 19-Nov-18 11:36:13

babies can make a mess when eating cake
Yes, they do and I have the cute photos to prove it - a slice of home-made birthday cake and a snapshot taken by me!!

Margs Mon 19-Nov-18 11:30:51

......and then I would make the destructive, spoilt brat eat up every crumb to teach them a lesson.

Hilltopgran Mon 19-Nov-18 09:01:47

I first heard about this a few years ago when DD was living in Dubai, parents had cute photos of baby 'smashing' first birthday cake by professional photographers, who advertised their services for the event. Not something our DGC have taken part in, but babies can make a mess when eating cake, so think its a current fashion aided by social media.
DGD has messy afternoon play at her nursery in this country and loves them, they include cake, paint, mud and all the things you would not want thrown about inside at home,

Daisyboots Mon 19-Nov-18 08:33:27

As for having school shirts signed at the end of your school life has been going on for many years that I know of. My eldest DD is 55 this week and she still has her signed shirt.

Daisyboots Mon 19-Nov-18 08:30:45

Well said Jayelld. These cake smashes are usually part of a series of photos done by a professional photographer as part of a set to celebrate a one year old's birthday. They are not for older children and are usually just a largish cake with a little butter icing. I have a photographer friend who will provide one if the parents want it plus the baby is usually only wearing a nappy when the photos are taken.
As for the wedding dresses my young friend had photos taken the the sea in Cyprus wearing hers for photos but before the English reception it had been dry cleaned and looked immaculate again.
Both are rather silly practices but not really hurting anyone else. The photo of the mother pushing her baby's face into the cake is quite awful.

absent Mon 19-Nov-18 04:03:57

My grandchildren look forward to whatever cake I bake for their birthdays – and all eat it. That's what you do with birthday cake.

annep Mon 19-Nov-18 03:50:10

yes Jalima, the generation that has so much less disposable income than we had.........

MissAdventure Mon 19-Nov-18 00:34:13

I've just seen ads for adult cake smash photography, cakes, and so on..
Dumb and dumber comes to mind.

newnanny Mon 19-Nov-18 00:18:00

Never heard of this before. Don't think it happens at parties my gc attend. I thought it only happened at gypsy weddings.

codfather Sun 18-Nov-18 23:45:43

Can't see the point! Waste of a good cake! Won't be happening here or it will be the last cake they get!

Jalima1108 Sun 18-Nov-18 23:02:06

Is this the same generation, spending all this money on a cake which will not be eaten, just smashed, and far more money on a professional photographer, the same generation that is always moaning that they can't afford anything and that we stole their future?

annep Sun 18-Nov-18 22:08:41

about beyond brainless.
And I don't like the way the world is changing.

annep Sun 18-Nov-18 22:00:00

GG I agree totally!

twiglet77 Sun 18-Nov-18 21:51:57

I utterly despair at the Instagram generation. These parties are huge business, especially for the professional photographers who promote them.

GabriellaG Sun 18-Nov-18 20:32:27

...and I truly think that anyone who organises that sort of stupidity or allows their children to go to parties where it's 'on the menu', is beyond brainless.