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Bouquet of flowers - light-hearted observation!

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vickymeldrew Fri 30-Nov-18 08:06:57

On the occasional times my DH gives me flowers, he brings them home and removes all the wrapping before plonking them in the nearest vase. AIBU to be disappointed as I would prefer to unwrap and arrange them myself?

Lilyflower Sat 01-Dec-18 11:41:08

My husband did not even buy me flowers on Valentine's day. He is sitting at the table looking at his iPad and grumbling about every single thing he sees. I have asked him to stop but it goes on and on...

mabon1 Sat 01-Dec-18 11:28:02

Enjoy your gift, re-arrange them when your husband is not around you lucky woman, stop moaning!

Bathbelle Sat 01-Dec-18 11:25:22

Yes Vicky I do feel you’re being a little unreasonable. Let him give you the flowers and arrange them if he wants to,he thinks he is doing something nice for you. You can always rearrange them when you change the water. My husband has only given me flowers once in 35 years, because I told him to. Think yourself lucky!

GabriellaG Sat 01-Dec-18 10:41:09

I much prefer to buy my own flowers. I get exactly what I want when I want from Freddie's Flowers a London based service who have them picked late and they arrive 24 hrs later in a huge box with ideas for displaying them to best advantage. They last for weeks as the stems are at least 2.5 ft long.

Sandigold Sat 01-Dec-18 10:37:23

Perhaps he is a bit shy? Of course presenting them to you would be more romantic. Does he know it would mean as lot to you if he did it s little differently? Could be part of a general discussion about what makes each of you feel loved. There is s great book, The 5 Languages of Love, which is quite fun and enlightening on this sort of thing. flowers

LadyGracie Sat 01-Dec-18 10:34:44

Yes, be grateful you get flowers, my DH could plonk away, he wouldn't think to buy me flowers, ever, plonking is all I do when I buy my own grin

NannyG123 Sat 01-Dec-18 10:02:54

My husband occasionally comes home from shopping with flowers and quickly takes the whoops sticker off .? it's the thought that counts.

ecci53 Sat 01-Dec-18 09:31:14

My husband has given me flowers once in 27 years. He came home from work with them and explained they'd been sent to a colleague as a 'sorry' by her boyfriend. The colleague threw them in the bin, so DH rescued them and brought them home for me!

ReadyMeals Sat 01-Dec-18 09:30:38

Lol mine's never bought me flowers. The only times I get flowers are when a neighbor wants to thank me for something, which is a lovely surprise when it happens. But I am not really sentimental about flowers, and I have a happy marriage so I am content.

Howjado Sat 01-Dec-18 08:47:52

Can I just say those lovely daffs on the roadside have been planted by someone (our parish council in my village) for us all to enjoy!

Witzend Sat 01-Dec-18 08:31:03

It wouldn't occur to my dh to put them in a vase himself, not that he buys me any more than once or twice a year.

Having said that, I was beyond moved last year when he came home with a lovely bouquet for me. It wasn't my birthday or Valentine's Day or anything - the usual occasions - so I was (in the nicest possible way) bemused.

Turned out that it was a Very Big Anniversary of the day we met. I couldn't believe he'd made a note of it. I still remember the day very well, but wouldn't have had a clue about the date.
Bless him.

SparklyGrandma Sat 01-Dec-18 01:48:15

I have to send flowers to myself these days. Don’t bite the giver.

Jomarie Fri 30-Nov-18 23:07:07

Can count on one hand the number of "bouquets" I have received from OH over the past 48 years but I did receive a pot plant each time I gave birth(3) - a chrysanthemum pot plant - not my favourite plant at all, but then I did have all three in August September and October - not many springlike plants available at the garage then!!!! It's the thought that counts .........................

blackiyto Fri 30-Nov-18 22:51:01

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Tansy Fri 30-Nov-18 18:10:01

WelshScot - Am I Being Unreasonable?

Madgran77 Fri 30-Nov-18 17:58:33

How lovely to have flowers!

Lynne59 Fri 30-Nov-18 16:59:48

At least he buys you flowers! I've been with my husband for 40 years (38 of them married), and he's got me flowers on 4 occasions!

WelshScot Fri 30-Nov-18 16:59:02

Hi
What is ABIU please?

callgirl1 Fri 30-Nov-18 16:52:34

I only got flowers twice in 53 years, would have been so pleased I wouldn`t have cared who put them in the vase!

ninathenana Fri 30-Nov-18 16:47:17

DH does sometimes come home with flowers and I do realise how lucky I am but he will come in the back way, run some water in the kitchen sink and dump them there for me to find, which could be an hour or so later.
I am never actually presented with flowers.

merlotgran Fri 30-Nov-18 13:35:43

When my mother was in a nursing home family members would visit with large bunches of flowers, grab the nearest vase and just shove them in. It used to infuriate me because I would then be the one stripping the lower leaves, trimming the stems and changing the water. If I didn't take the trouble, the water would soon be green and smelly and the flowers wouldn't last.

When I plucked up the courage to mention this to my sis-in-law she said, 'Oh but we want to spend our time talking to her and in any case we know how much you love flower arranging and you're so much better at it!' hmm angry

Luckygirl Fri 30-Nov-18 13:24:41

Someone kindly sent me some flowers the other week via Waitrose. I did not realise they had this service. They are the best flowers I have ever received - absolutely beautiful: dark green foliage with huge white hydrangeas and off-white roses.

Lisagran Fri 30-Nov-18 10:41:46

I’ve had a rubbish week, with a heavy cold and a chesty cough keeping me awake every night. Husband brought back some flowers yesterday which was a kind gesture. He plonked them, untrimmed, in the blue vase, which was fine. Today, I still don’t feel great, but I’m up and about - so I trimmed the flowers and put them in the pink jug. He won’t notice. I appreciate his kindness. I expect your husband thought he was doing you a favour, unwrapping and putting in a vase?
Better than a poke in the eye with a blunt stick.....

ffinnochio Fri 30-Nov-18 10:33:53

Love that Marelli ! The best gift of flowers are those picked from the verge.

Marelli Fri 30-Nov-18 10:28:16

Those were the days, Merlotgran ?. As he's no longer 'on the road', I get no flowers, but he's very good with the bins! Definitely a 'keeper'. ?