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AIBU to feel really confused?

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stella1949 Sat 01-Dec-18 12:21:37

So let me get this right - this girl is your husband's daughter ? And her mother's husband abused her so she went No Contact with her mother since she wasn't believed about the abuse.

Now after many years she is back in contact with her mother again, visiting etc.

I guess there isn't much you can do about this. She is entitled to regain her relationship with her mother - despite what happened in the past. I can understand that you'd feel resentful since you have been so supportive over the years, but at the end of the day this is her mother. Now that she is a mother herself she may just want to regain that blood relationship again.

All you can do is "roll with the flow". Wait for a couple of days and then send a text or call her , and ask in a light way " Can we meet ? I've got some advent calendars for DG. ". Don't wade in and start talking about her mother - just keep it light and see how things go. Good luck.

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StormySunshine Sat 01-Dec-18 11:50:00

1st post here, please be gentle! My DH and I wanted to drop off advent calendars today for my DSD, DSG and partner. Were told that it won't be convenient, as her mother is visiting for the day. Now, some background. My DSD moved in with us at 14yrs old and went no contact with her mum, after it came to light (she told me) that she was abused for years by her stepfather. Her own mum didn't believe her but we have been behind my DSD since. Police were involved but DSD decided not to testify in court, so he was only interviewed. Her mum never tried to contact her, apart from sending abusive emails, etc. My DSS (10yrs older) also went NC when all this came to light (he still is). Our own relationship has been really good - we were supportive when she got pregnant at 17, bought a flat for them near us, helped out financially quite a bit, she even wanted me present at my dsgs's birth! Recently, I found out from my DSS that their mum has been in contact and is now meeting with my DSD, telling her that she now believes her, even though she still lives with same man! AIBU to feel really confused and a little bit resentful that after all this?

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