farmgran, lots of love and sympathies to you. I did geriatric nursing, in the days when we had hospital specialising in care for the elderly. Dementia patients are difficult to take care off. I remember one lovely neighbour, who was an absolute delight, until he got dementia. His wife was so caring, but often I would find him miles away from his home, when I was out, and would get him in the car and take him home. His children were horrified when he came to hospital, as they thought mum should care for him. I suggested that each one of them had him for four weeks, before they had an opinion. Believe me, none of them wanted to. It was even hard for my colleagues to accept that normally this violent abusive man, was a gentle soul, who would lean over the wall and give you help and advice about your garden. You are brave and strong, grab some ‘me’ time, if you can.