Don’t want to drip feed so this is long sorry.
My child and two other children from another mother are in one boat, the GC from GPs daughter are in another boat.
Their sons’ children never see them. Older kids (my child’s half siblings) are estranged and no contact between parents for last 5 years. GP’s kept up contact for about 3-4 years about twice a year. The story they told me was they want to see GC, not the mother, but she won’t allow contact without being present. However they have also said things like ‘we play with the kids at the park and she (their mother) sits on her phone’ so not like she’s getting involved in the visit as such, no awkward conversations to make etc?? Maybe IABU here?
Then my situation. I’ve had a rocky time with their son who suffers from unstable mental health at times, drug use and Jekyll and Hyde tendencies. They are aware and have seen first hand how he can be. I too won’t be without my young child, but mine and their sons relationship is still good, he sees our child when he likes, though we don’t live together mainly due to his violent outbursts but also because of his work. I’ve tried and tried to keep up contact with them with my child, often messages are ignored or vague responses saying they will let me know but never do. In the end it was embarrassing for me being rejected so frequently so I stopped asking for meet ups. My child has seen them once this year at a family event for a couple of hours. They live 20 minutes drive away and I offer to go to them or can they suggest something they’d like to do etc.
Their daughters’ children they see daily, they live very close by but still I’m offering to go to them so not like that’s a hardship for them.
My questions are -
Can you tell me why you think they wouldn’t take me up on my offer to meet up?
AIBU to of thought they’d want to see (all) their GC growing up given the chance?
Are you in a similar situation and what can you suggest I do from here?
Well done if you got this far! ?
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