To be annoyed about the wedding plans?

Oh, let her yak, yak, yakkity for now - she may have little else she considers worth bothering about in her life, I suppose.

Maybe there's going to be a yawning chasm for her to face when the wedding is over? Maybe.

Having read some other responses, I've had a rethink - is it possible that your friend may be quite anxious about the wedding? Perhaps that is why she keeps talking about it. Maybe she is worried about 'losing' her daughter? Or anxious that the wedding will not live up to expectations?
Dig a little deeper....she may have concerns.

I have a friend like this. She is a poor listener and turns everything into anecdotes about her life and her late husband on every single occasion. It is worse when we are in a captive situation. At the book club she ruins everyone's reviews by interrupting with her own opinion and anecdotes. When it's her turn she doesn't know when to stop.

I just can’t relate to this.

A close good friend is very excited about a life event.

Another 4 poxy months of hearing about it. Nothing in the big picture. I’d sit there and listen and be a friend (and be happy for her!)

Try saying 'Yes - you said' whenever she repeats herself. Sounds rude? Yes it does but repeating things over and over is both inconsiderate and rude imo…..unless, of course, she cannot help it due to some kind of deficit, in which case perhaps you should consider saying it to draw her attention to something she may be unaware of.

Well get involved no sour grapes, suggest a shopping trip together for wedding outfits, thats always fun, when my stepdaughter was getting married we spent a lot of time together talking weddings, its very girlie stuff. Suggest a shopping trip or visit a wedding fair. Visit a florist to look at flowers,perhaps help out with planning , and she will be very grateful for your support and help and once the wedding is over you can then share photos and know that you supported her and you still have a friend.

Not weddings, but when I meet a certain friend for coffee-and lunch - the conversation is 90% about her ,her family and the holidays she and her DH go on frequently. Have now seen her special birthday party photos twice and each time been told which family member ( lots of them ):is which and likewise with large number of friends. I was at the party and it WAS very enjoyable ,but enough is enough!
It’ s difficult to get a word in about anything, usually.
She is over enthusiastic about everything ,which is fine, but does get s bit OTT when ‘amazing’ is used so frequently!
She is a very good hearted person and It would be hard to stop meeting up every few weeks. So be it!

Give her a break
It will naturally come to an end ... much of the fun of a wedding is in the preparation... the day itself just flies past and is done...
they are just all involved and excited...

I'm quite relieved to learn that others have friends like this too. I have very dear friend who drives me mad . We spend all our regular meetings talking about her life & family . Sometimes I think my ears well drop off !
I can see , when I talk , that her eyes glaze and she gazes off into the middle distance ( I hope I'm not that boring . Others assure me in not .)
She's now developed a really upsetting habit . I am allowed to speak for a few minutes then it's back to her .... and she actually says , " just to change the subject !"
Aaaaaaaaghhh !
Pointing this out would just upset her so I grin and bear it .

It sounds like she's really 'over the moon' about this wedding. Having said that, when it comes to a dear friend we can either grin and bear it or risk jeopardizing a good friendship.

Look at it this way.....as tedious as she's become, once the wedding is over, she'll go into withdrawal and you can take a much needed break before a grandchild comes along!

It's only a big thing to the mother of the bride though.

Is it just the wedding or is she always self absorbed? If just the wedding and she's a good friend indulge her. If it's the same with everything it's a different kettle of fish.

She's excited bless her, it's a big thing being mother of the bride! Being her friend you should be excited with her?
Not a wee bit jealous are you ?

Not a wedding, that was 5 years ago, but my sister rings me up with an inane excuse and almost without pausing for my reply, launches straight into her latest doctors/hospial/dentist visit or her upcoming operations, plus her husband's ailments! After the 2nd or 3rd go round, I switch off, say yes or no in the right places.
It is a family joke that we 'never' ask her how she is unless we have an hour or two to spare. Obviously we are there for her if it's serious but to be rung up during your dinner and have to listen, in detail, to skin grafts or worse, body functions malfunctioning is a tad off putting,

Sympathies, but she is obviously enjoying this so much and is so excited - why prick the bubble of happiness? It will be over before you know it and then you can resume the kind of relationship you had before...apart from the few weeks of discussing what happened instead of what is to happen. I'm sure we all do this to a degree when there is something huge in our lives, and it sounds like you are being a really kind, tolerant friend, albeit a slightly frazzled one! Enjoy the day - you can with a clear conscience if you don't knock your friend back.

It’s sad that she has nothing else to talk about.

I'm with M0nica - make it a game to keep your mind stimulated . Bite your tongue as it's only for a short time and maybe take it as a compliment that she considers you so close a friend, it's like talking to her sister about it all.
Enjoy the wedding!

You have my sympathies, Neptune.
I have a neighbour who takes every opportunity to talk 'at me' about every detail of her life, and it is very, very wearing.
I'm not sure what the solution is, but I think its really selfish of your friend.

You'll have to tolerate it for months and the post wedding disection or stop seeing too muh of her. I've had 3 daughters married and the whole thing was very stressful and worrying as I wanted them to have a good time but it took over evrything. She's very lucky to have you to sound off to. My sympathies are with you as must be boring but just think how much fun the day will be. If I were you i'd make sure I had a bottle of Champagne to myself.

You'll have to tolerate it for months and the post wedding disection or stop seeing too muh of her. I've had 3 daughters married and the whole thing was very stressful and worrying as I wanted them to have a good time but it took over evrything. She's very lucky to have you to sound off to. My sympathies are with you as must be boring but just think how much fun the day will be. If I were you i'd make sure I had a bottle of Champagne to myself.

That is exactly what I have done Pen
We went out for lunch 3 weeks ago for a mutual friend's birthday and I said I was going to stay with my D the following week, this is a rare event due to life getting in the way.
While I was away she phoned for a chat and was amazed I wasn't home.
When I returned her call she had no idea I was going away.
This of course means she just never listens to anyone else.

Neptune - just let her enjoy it and she’ll value your friendship so much. At least you’re going to the wedding. She would be so embarrassed and upset if you said you were getting fed up with all the talk - it’s absolutely not worth even the smallest upset.

DD was to be a bridesmaid and for nearly a year, there were relentless texts, emails, phone calls from bride. I was stressed by all this, never mind DD. Another bridesmaid dropped out and was never spoken to again by bride. After the day, nothing.

There are always people like this in one’s circle of friends I find. They forget you have a life and only talk about theirs. It is trying to be with them but I’ve found no antidote yet as they immediately turn the conversation back to their experiences if you dare interject with a story of your own. The answer seems to be to lengthen the gap between seeing them so it ends up being an acquaintanceship rather than a friendship.

I would let her talk about the wedding. It's a happy subject that she wants to share. My friend has no grandchildren and I have four. I try very hard not to talk to her about them, but sometimes they slip into the conversation!