Mothers Day is cancelled

Explain that you find his comments very hurtful. Your current full time job is caring for your three children and it deserves to be recognised because as Mums we give our utmost. Point it out calmly and patiently and await Sunday. Hope he turns up trumps.x

I hope you just get up on Sunday morning and go out somewhere nice on your own for the day.
If he means this (and I truly hope he does not!!) then I would be going out for the day too.

It used to be people were given the day off to go home to visit their 'Mother Church' but nowadays, whether commercialised or not, it is a good time to appreciate all that a mother does.

i would give him a well thought out list with things you would like and tell him to pick one and buy it.

I hope you just get up on Sunday morning and go out somewhere nice on your own for the day. Take a notebook and plan how you are going to LTB

muffin I know you're probably worn to a frazzle dealing with two sets of difficult parents, a houseful of small children and your husband, who clearly needs careful handling, but on this issue I do think it's worth challenging him on the hypocrisy and unfairness of his stance. I would simply ask him to explain his thinking and then watch him flounder as he tries to justify a gift for his mum and not for you.

Having read your posts I definitely think you're deserving of flowers, so here, have some from me.

It isn't a made-up occasion to sell cards. It's origins are in Christianity. It is the middle Sunday in Lent and originally the mother was the mother church in Jerusalem. In the middle ages, it began to be seen as applying to the Virgin Mary, mothers and then individual mothers and servants and work people would visit home and as the day is in spring, probably, collect any wild flowers they saw on the way as an offering to their mother. Now of course people buy cards, but the feast preceeded the cards by as much as 1,000 years. the made up occasion to sell cards is the Mother's day in May.

Why on earth did you order flowers for your MiL? If your H cares about his mother, he should make the effort and order them himself - and face the recriminations, if there are any, when he doesn't.

I'd be steaming mad!!

Perhaps he's planning a surprise. Breakfast in bed, flowers and chocs and he's cooking lunch?

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you muffin

ps Mothering Sunday

Oh bless you muffin I bet you’re feeling highly unappreciated right now.
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We have never celebrated "Mother's Day". When the children were little we enjoyed "Mothering Sunday" at church when the children all went out to pick wild flowers the day before and gave them to mothers or grannies at the Sunday service.

I would be quite cross to think that my children required to be encouraged by media hype to give their mum a present. I much prefer the unexpected ones I get on random occasions whether it is a kiss on the cheek, bunch of flowers or left-over soup (yesterday's unexpected gift!).

I would be very upset and would have to say something. I think it is a lovely tradition and I always get a visit and or flowers from both my AC.

It reminds me of the time that my DH came home and told me that he was paying for one of the girls who worked for him to have a cleaner as she worked so hard at work she didn't have the time to clean also. I let him know in no uncertain terms what I thought of that.

BTW, his mother , his responsibility.

I would buy myself something nice definitely! I wouldn't have bought the MiL flowers either.

mmm it's a bit of a weird one. I sense things have improved on the health and home front which is good. I feel Mothers Day has been hijacked and turned into something horrible, like Easter and of course the biggy Christmas.

I suggest you are clear and straight with Mr Muffin and state your wishes. Then and only then are you allowed to sulk if he falls short of the mark.

I'm not surprised you feel sad, and a bit let down too I imagine . Can't believe he had the audacity to make sure his own mother was sorted but yet, doesn't feel the mother of his three children warrants even a card ? It's not even that the children are at school or nursery where at least they are encouraged to make a card for mummy, ( and these are the ones that are most treasured ) I would order yourself something nice online too , to save him the hassle !!!!

So, mothers day is cancelled for you, as it's "a made up holiday to sell cards" but you have to organise flowers for his mother!!!!

Bit double standards, don't you think?

I know what I would say to him................

I have NEVER had a Mothers Day Card from my children - and I have three!