What's wrong with that.?
Terrible relationship with DIL - am I the problem?
So it begins….. Streeting resigns
Okay,I think I am going to get bashed. Sorry folks who have retired to their holiday paradise land.
Our area is predominantly rural, with few large employers generating good incomes and thus pension pots are often low. But the big bonuses are beautiful scenery, beaches, no huge roads, friendly people and very little crime. Many of us are related, have long working relationships with each other, our children went to school together, we have kept local traditions going, supported countryside sports, football, rowing etc. In other words we have deep understanding and ties with each other and the land. We know the skeletons in our neighbours cupboards and that also bonds us.
But our lives have changed rapidly in recent years. There has always been a trickle of retirees. They have been welcomed and in their turn they have enriched our local community. Now virtually every time a house is sold it goes to an outsider. Often a cash buyer with a bigger pot of gold who can move quickly unlike the local person who cannot proceed with such speed.
Just like the icecaps our indigenous community is melting away because of the flood of retirees. Not only does it affect us as individuals, it affects our schools, sports clubs, our doctors surgery, our care of the elderly services etc.
Committees are often taken over by well meaning and well educated folk who have excessive time on their hands. Local knowledge is often not present anymore. Whenever a local entrepreneur wants to develop a business or a building project goes before planning there is a tremendous hue and cry. The new comers fight it with a vengeance. NIMBY. Social housing, so long as it isn’t next to the incomers.
Why do people retire to an area they have little connection with? Why do they in later years leave their friends and connections behind? Friends are quite different from acquaintances.
What's wrong with that.?
janeainsworth. Here here. It’s typical little Britain thinking. No wonder we are in the mess we are in now. It’s like Not even wanting domestic immigration Probably Leave area .
GabriellaG54. Yes I can’t believe someone posted be grateful they aren’t immigrants and asylum seekers. There but for the grace of God. Etc. And people say Brexit wasn’t racist. Pleeease !!!! Plenty of racists on here. Ashamed to be British sometimes. !
Specs. I find everything about your post appalling and abhorrent and I suggest you go and live on Mars
People can now live where they like, provided they have the money. That is the truth that rankles with those who do not. They feel a rather archaic lifestyle is under threat. But it is the same everywhere; no money, no power.
BlueBelle. Well said. Paddyann* comment abhorrent. This thread really shows how people fail to see movement of people has always happened. Horror I know , but it is only 10,000 years since we were attached to Europe by land ( Thank God people came like the Romans and showed us how to build roads etc !
Might have been interesting if the OP had come back to see if the pot she stirred had boiled !!
We moved to a village a year and a half ago after living near London for over 30 years . We support local businesses and events and spend our money with local trade men if we can .
The lack of social housing means young people on agricultural wages move away so without the older ‘incomers’ the village would die .
We live in the middle of the Northumberland National Park, the park puts a covenant on all new homes built stating that it can’t be a second home and you must either work or belong Northumberland. Some of the previous council houses have the same rules. Whilst it means we are not inundated with ‘outsiders’ it makes it difficult for those who would like to move away from the area as they are limited who they can sell to. I belong Northumberland my husband is a southerner, we retired here from Cambridgeshire however this was my home albeit it many years ago.
To the best of my knowledge, my maternal great grand father hailed from a village where distant relatives lived for centuries -- and continue to -
My maiden name appears for the first time in any historical text around 600AD - The origin of it, a complete mystery - They moved around a lot?
Genetically, there has to be a smattering of incestual issues in little villages where families never leave -
Grandmainoz
Locals don't have a hope ????Have you ever questioned who sells these houses to your 'treechangers'.? The property, H and self bought for our retirement had been put on the market by, we learned from the agent , a local family who had relatives and friends in the same area. How were we the 'lucky' ones ? Could be by giving the asking price? So where was loyalty.?Not apparently when it comes to ones own pocket.
You obviously don't know your neighbours as well as you thought you did. The power is on the hands of those selling. Why aren't they selling to the locals? The reason is, they are motivated by greed. This is happening up and down the country and more so in Scotland where southerners are selling for a huge profit and buying bigger less expensive properties up here. Greed and money is why you are suffering.
People retire to where they want because.....this is a free country. I'm afraid your village does not belong to you. You are free to move out. These aliens you talk about appear constructive and able to contribute to the general good. As far as I can tell you are not an endangered indigenous tribe despite what you may believe. I actually find something quite distasteful about any sort of exclusivity based on nothing but appearance as I'm sure most tolerant, non-judgemental, understanding and generous spirited people may do. These people have worked hard all their lives and are now enjoying all the benefits you want to deny them. I hope younever find yourself having to move to a new area and make a foundation for yourself by joining in and contributing to the community.
Amen, Millie! Simply put, nail on the head!
Not easy - whatever you do has knock-on effects. I was born & brought up in a fairly low income area, where my family goes back hundreds of years.
I left to train as a nurse, always expecting to return, but I met & married a Londoner - we settled somewhere that was between the 2 families - actually a very deprived area where our skills and training were welcomed, and our children happy. I liked it and was especially grateful for good schools, but it always felt like a 'posting'.
Come retirement I felt a huge pull to my 'home' which my DH didn't feel especially - his family had always moved around for work and he felt no 'roots'. I asked him to 'come home' with me, and we have been happy.
I see both the 'insider' and 'outsider' points of view, although I think the biggest issue is maybe numbers /proportion? Here the 'outsider' retirees and commuters are still a 'trickle'and their enthusiasm and skills are welcomed. But I can understand OP's pov.
Greed and money is why you are suffering.
But it is not greed - a house is only worth what someone else is willing to pay for it.
Why should anyone sell their house at a loss or accept less out of the goodness of their heart? The people selling have to buy elsewhere or perhaps even need to fund care home fees.
In my experience, retirees often prefer to purchase bungalows whereas young people looking to purchase their first home would in most instances prefer a house or flat.
Last September O.H. and I rented holiday cottage in a beautiful village just a few miles outside Perth.
I treated myself to a cut and blow dry at the village hairdresser one afternoon.
During the chat with the hairdresser I was quite shocked at how abrupt her attitude was. She asked me are you another of our WHITE SETTLERS who has just moved here or are you on holiday?
When I said we were on holiday her attitude softened. When I read the post it just reminded me of my experience last summer. I am no shrinking Violet , but I remember being taken aback at her attitude. I'd forgotten about it until I read this post.
Specs I think you are yearning for a way of life that we had pre Norman Conquest so lets blame them.
Come on Specs, lighten up!! I’m Cornish born and bred, family can be traced back to the 1500’s. We are use to people retiring/ moving here to our beautiful county and buying/renting homes, (which Cornish people sell to!!). We do struggle, with faculties especially our ONE main hospital and our schools etc to cope with influx especially in the summer. Our main income now is the hospitality trade due to losing our mining and China clay industries ?. Sometimes I don’t hear a Cornish accent all day, but love to hear others accents !! Also our grown children do move away, sometimes because they can’t jobs here or they actually want to!!
notanan2 - in general young people move to more urban areas where there is a greater variety of employment and also chances for moving up the ladder. Chances are, they'll meet someone from another part of the country and remain together in a city until they too decide to move to the country. But which part?
Rural areas are great for children to live in - plenty of freedom (if their parents allow it) - and also for those who wish for a quieter life as they get older.
Some of the above comments remind me of rural Wales back in the sixties and seventies. As young adults my OH and I used to visit west Wales regularly and I used to fantasize about the ruined cottages, nestling in little overgrown corners. Of course we had no money with which to buy one. At the same time the Welsh were burning houses owned by English people but it was the Welsh who had moved out from the old wrecks to new housing, having sold the wreck in the process. A few years later the same thing went on in Brittany.
There is a comment above about buy to let investors selling up but somewhere along the line those properties were sold by somebody local.
A house is worth the asking price of the seller!!! Not the other way around!!!
What's more important - people or place? When I was widowed I chose people which why I'm back in Notts.
lovebeigcardigans People are important which is why I'd love to be back in Devon 
Churcky thank you for your post Sun 14-Apr-19 11:24:55
I've never actually thought of the Scots and the English as different races - I've lots of Scottish friends and European relations too and there are good and bad (annoying) people everywhere.
A friend from years ago used the word "parochial" to describe people who are narrow-minded and this thread brought that word to mind.
I loved and grew up in liverpool, went to the NE which I again loved plus loved the friendly welcoming people. Loved living in the lake district, hated N wales which was very unwelcoming to a young couple with 2 small children. Loved very much S Wales where we stayed for 35 years. Then moved again after retirement, not to that seaside county but to a rural county betwixt and between children. I think we were pretty representative of a young family moving with work
Shortly moving again, slightly away from my quiet rural idyll, need shops and buses. Went on a visit the other day and spoke to 5 different strangers. There must be something about certain parts of the country, very very welcoming. I have to say that no wonder the SE gets a bad press, all those people and all those stabbings. No wonder it is called a c* pit. We only ever hear the bad stuff from the media
So in the Sunday times today a magazine about the 48 best places to move to and live in Britain.. be very afraid if you live in one of these places
I've just checked, Chewbacca and whoever posted this first (can't find the post) and yes, I do live in one of those towns and yes, they are going to build many new houses. In fact they already seem to have started.
Must try to find my NIMBY tie.
"So in the Sunday Times today a magazine about the 48 best places to move to and live in Britain.....be very afraid if you live in one of these places" I am
, my town's there! I'm thrilled and afraid in equal measures
I've been here nearly 35 years, it has become far more yuppified of late, I never took my children out for boiled egg and soldiers at the weekends, that would have been a complete waste of money in my day, not that there were such places. Now my high street is awash with chi chi coffee shops and you're lucky to get into one of them on a Saturday or Sunday
Anyway, as one kind MN pointed out a while back, pensioners shouldn't be cluttering up the high street at the weekends when they have all week at their disposal. Always good to know your place 
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A Local village for Local people! ?
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