Holiday - own room

EmilyHarburn It is times like this I would like to respond directly to the poster! (have asked GN for it!!)

Emily...are you serious? "I get up in the night and use a head torch which has as red light so does not disturb. We agree if we will pull the plug. We each keep to our own half of the room."?

Sounds so horrendous to me? BUT...if it works for you who am I to query it?

Personally I would rather not go away than have to take pills and get up in the night with a head torch bahah xx

I would just say that you have a weak bladder and need to go to the loo several times a night. This is what I told my friend when she suggested we should go away for a holiday together. She said it would be cheaper sharing and I agree, but it would probably have broken our friendship. I did not even share with my husband, we had separate bedrooms for 25 years and we still loved each other.

I can't help wondering whether the OP's friend would genuinely have trouble paying for a single, or whether she's just tight!
We once seriously debated inviting an elderly aunt of dh's on holiday with us, since my mother was also coming.

Sharing a room would never have been on the cards, but we eventually decided against it, since although very well off and formerly very well travelled, she was unbelievably mean with money and would have been grumbling - probably vociferously! - about every single bill however small.

It just wasn't worth the aggro.

I have shared several times with my best friend but would not share with anyone else. Have gone away with a group of friends and paid for a single room

Thank you Brigidsdaughter, it was a bit alarming at the time, but a good dinner party story later!

I never share rooms with anyone except my husband, not family , not friends. If you make it clear that this is non-negotiable no-one will dare to argue with you. Problem solved.

I couldn’t bear the thought of sharing with anyone apart from my husband, I even dislike sharing a bathroom with him when we’re away from home

In my youth I shared rooms, even beds (platonically of course) with friends, but I couldn’t do it now!

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You gave me a good laugh though I can see that wouldn't have been funny for you.
A friend was keen to share a cabin on a cruise. However, no way would I share. (She could afford the fare).
DH and I haven't shared for years but happy. Space is healthy.
If I was moving house, I'd love my own bathroom too!

Shared a room with an old friend a few years ago when we went on a walking tour for the first time together. She is reasonably well off and goes on holiday on her own a lot - yet cut corners on meals, cups of coffee when we were out and wouldn’t socialise in the evening in case it meant spending money. Never again!

A holiday with a friend can be the end of a lovely friendship if you have no respite from each other. I think separate rooms is essential.

Totally agree with everyone - if you don't want to share a room for whatever reason just don't do it. Your friend is the one being unreasonable. End of.

Im going on holiday with my mum n dad....they said we could always all share a room...lol so I would save money on single room.

My mum n dad are 84 im 63 so think Im a bit old to be sharing with Mum & Dad lol....but it made me smile lol

janeainsworth "you took the words right out of my mouth"

(as Meatloaf would say)

It depends on your budget. It sounds like she can't afford separate rooms, but you can. And if you're already disagreeing on the finances before it's booked the holiday would not be the relaxing break it should be

So much enjoyed reading this thread and finding out I am not the only one who hates sharing. I would honestly rather not go on holiday. I love to have a companion to travel with, but strictly on the understanding we have our own en-suite rooms. So no SisterAct you are not being unreasonable at all.

I prefer not to share with anybody, including my OH, although we do on holiday. I have shared on one or two night city breaks with a very good friend, but wouldn’t do it for longer.

If a single room is your preference, that’s your prerogative. If your frosty friend cannot afford her own room, that’s just unfortunate for her. No reason you should have to suffer!

It is your holiday too. Your purpose on going on it is not, I presume, so you can save your friend money. If you go on a holiday and want your own room. Have one.

I am not sure I would want to holiday with a friend whose sole purpose of asking me to join her was to save herself money. You are holidaying together because you enjoy each others company. You are not a money off coupon.

When I’ve been on holiday with a friend I’ve always had my own room, but once I went on a choir tour and we were made to share to save costs. It was awful. We didn’t know each other particularly well, and the person I shared with was very fussy about small things. She got very upset if I put my toothbrush in the ‘wrong place’.

I’ve lived on my own a long time, and I hate even sharing a bathroom.

The only person I would happily (mostly!) share with is my dear Mum, apart from DH of course! I have shared with a couple of close friends but everyone's habits are different so it can cause friction. One dear friend I went away with for our 50th birthdays like the curtains open always and gets up early! I wanted a darker room and later rising!!! We did manage as our hotel gave us a small suite of rooms so we could have our own preferences when it came to sleeping!

If it’s about cost saga holidays don’t charge extra for single rooms

I don't particularly like sharing, but I did when a friend and I went to the Chelsea Flower Show one year - we had a brilliant laugh.

Unbearable - if she's only asked you to make it cheaper what sort of holiday is that!?

How do you know she's not a noisy sleeper? And are you?

There is only one friend who I share a room with. We are so used to it and we both know each other’s foibles
Another friend I did share with told me she was going to record my sleeping as I made funny noises.
It made me afraid to sleep after that so never again with her.
Separate rooms forever more except for my one friend.
I don’t know if I could even share with my sister.
Stick to your guns

It is important to have your own room- you don’t want to hear/smell her bodily functions, nor she yours. The extra cost of 2 rooms is well worth it.