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I have a friend who "pops" in whenever she hears we have visitors and I am the one gets it in the neck for accidentally telling her XYZ is due , so I understand what you are saying , I just grin and go with the flow now

Vicar of Dibley?

I can remember having being invited to 2 Christmas Dinners one time and being unable to refuse

What happened? Did you eat two?

Also. What Brandybutter said.

I would mention to your son and Dil that your other daughter mentioned 'popping in' as well so they are aware of her impending visit and leave it to them, at least they will be aware of extra guests.

I also agree with Paddyanne

As long as she’s not popping in every other day, at inconvenient times, surely it’s not much of a problem

I agree with Paddyann. But obviously your son doesn't like drop in visits. My brother and sister died years ago. How I wish they could drop in.

It sounds as if there is more to this story than you've told us. If there are tensions between your children, I'd suggest telling them to deal with it, and to contact each other if there is going to be a visit. And since your daughter seems to "drop in" when you are there visiting her brother, how about you just don't tell her your plans ?

I dont understand why its a problem if your daughter visits,my two often pop into each others if their passing ,isn't that what families do?

Perhaps your daughter and other son don't get on well for some reason. It happens and my advice is to not ask or worry. But she obviously enjoys seeing you and other brother. Perhaps you could suggest she checks with him. I think its lovely that she wants to visit. My children don't care about visiting each other.

For example> One day Daughter phoned me and said she was coming to visit me. I said I will meet her at the other brothers as it was a lovely sunny day and I go to sit in the garden while they are at work. [I haven't got a garden] she usually arrives about mid day. She said okay. I prepared lunch to take over for us. within the hour there was a knock on my door and it was my daughter at 10.30a.m. Making a vague excuse that she forgot she had a later appointment and just pop in for a coffee? It's a 100 mile round trip!! This is one of many similar episodes. She is making it obvious that she does want to go to visit her 'other brother'.

Mountain and molehill? Yes, you are probably worrying too much over something that appears to be easily solved!

Unless there is more to this than you have said?

Well Nana15, I may not be of much comfort - but my daughter tends to do this 'popping in' at her 2 brothers' houses. I heard over the grape vine that one of her sisters -in - law is not too happy about it. But my daughter doesn't take any notice. I am both embarrassed and anxious, because she could be 'told off' by her brother and it could cause another family rift. This is the same boy who was horrible to me last August. I though I was the only one who had this problem. I have no answer, because if your daughter is like mine, she won't take a blind bit of notice ?- happy families eh? Hope the visit goes well x

Umm, suggest to your daughter that she gets in touch with her brother and checks it's ok to turn up at the same time as your visit?