Canarygirl.I hope you are able to get some support and comfort from the suggestions that have been offered.
Hetty58,I absolutely agree with you,so many 'carers' do carry on to the very point of self destruction. It sneakily takes over our lives,it has made me a person that I never wanted to be.I was lucky to be optimistic and confident,for most of my life.Not so now.
Last week,I had a sudden purulent cough,waited over w/e got antibiotics and steroids. Had to take him 20 miles to dentist for tooth out,then back to diabetic nurse,GP phoned him on the way home,wanted to see him to say he has underactive thyroid,given Thyroxine,then up to hospital 7 miles away to get blood request form for next week,he has to have bloods done before chemo,next Friday.,Dr on Oncology ward phoned him and said they were giving him a stronger antibiotic and could he collect it from hospital. He took prescription to pharmacy,they gave him a cup of water,he took one of the antibiotics and one Thyroxine. Came back to car,we set off home,he vomitted,he didn't know if he had vomitted the tabs and didn't dare take more. I just felt poorly,defeated and tired out but I am the carer. He has terminal lung cancer that has spread to the bone. We are encarserated.