Am I being selfish.

This falls into the category of giving up your own room to a guest - no! My parents always did this when their good friends came to visit and I could never understand it! As others have said you're the senior member of the family and will be much better for you to sleep well!

agree with mumofmadboys. tis not your choice to make. its your daughter's house. she puts you in the nice room. there is no issue here.

As the others have said, enjoy the comfortable room!
We end up in the spare room at our DS' house, sleeping on an inflatable bed in our sleeping bags - but we camp/glamp quite happily, so I suppose they think we're OK. And we are - except for trying to get up from virtually floor level!! Last time I noticed that they'd tidied the room so we had more space and they have been talking about a folding double bed, so I'm hoping......

No need to feel guilty. Its one of the few benefits of becoming older!
I'm always given the eldest GSs bedroom when I stay in Oz, usually for 6 weeks at a time. He doesn't really like sleeping on his own so takes the top bunk with youngest GD (7) or goes in with the 2nd GS (12). I feel sort of guilty, but he's quite happy. My DD despairs - he's 15. She couldn't find him recently, and there he was downstairs in his sister's room! Maybe he'll go straight from home to living with a wife....?

I'm assuming you 'know' you'll be put in the more comfortable room? If you are (and I certainly hope that is the case) at an appropriate time I would make verbal reference to the relief I was experiencing and the reason for that. This would reinforce the importance in everyones' mind. Certainly wouldn't do any harm and would bode well for your comfort zone in the future. Good luck.

No dong give up your room x but you are so lucky I’d sleep standing up to spend Christmas with my daughter and grandchildren but the flight are too dear - hope you all have a lovely time x

No of course don't swap - being a senior member of the family must count somewhere! If it's cold, I'd guess that your GD will be providing extra bedding etc and anyway, they may well be some of the last ones to bed anyway !

Abuelana I think I read you wrongly. Please accept apologies.

Hear hear Pat1949

My answer to you, don’t be daft, what do you want to do that for?? Surely as an elder in the family you deserve a bit of comfort.

I hope you've made sure you ARE getting the nice cosy room...

I think you all should sleep where your daughter asks you all to.
It's her house and she will decide where's best for everyone. I'm sure she will give you your good room near the bathroom and you'll be comfy.
Enjoy your break. I hope you have a lovely time xx

As others have said...I'd check where she plans to put you all!!

Abuelana I strongly disagree with you. Strange thing to say.

I'd check that I would deffo be in the 'comfy' room before I booked my flight -

No age has privileges! Stay put and ? unless you’re asked to swap - don’t offer!

I always give up my lovely bedroom with adjacent bathroom if I have guests, and sleep on the harder bed in another room myself. I do have access to a nearby bathroom though. I am lucky enough to have 2 . However its usually only for one or two nights. If going to a relatives or friends for the night I am usually given a very comfortable room near the bathroom.
Don't feel guilty as if you say you think your son should have the better room everybody else will feel guilty and say you should have it.
Have a wonderful break! Enjoy your family get together!

Surely, as it's your daughter's house, it's up to her where people sleep - she's assigned you a nice room next to a bathroom, so respect her wishes and enjoy it ! (Also, as we get older, we have to gently give up the habit of putting everyone-else first and put ourselves first for a change. You should definitely have the more comfortable room!)

No doubt your D would not want her invited family to sleep in a cold room.
Why not wait and see the arrangements once you arrive and I am your son is quite capable of sorting out any heating arrangements for himself.

Don’t feel guilty. Accept the invitation with good grace, and have a lovely time.

No, you definitely do not want the other room if it's colder & noisier! The young 'uns can put up with it out of respect for your seniority. Play the Little Old Lady card for all it's worth, I say.

NB: it's not ages until Christmas - it'll be August in less than a fortnight and then it's downhill all the way to Christmas Eve. Just where has the year gone?

Stick with the sleeping arrangements that give you the closest room for the 'night-time loo dash' ;-), kircubbin2000. Whenever I stay overnight at my DD's home, my granddaughter offers to take the sofa - but she has a downstairs bathroom ......................... no way would I ever make it safely down the very steep staircase in the middle of the night.

Come the day when she has an upstairs bathroom, I'll certainly grab the opportunity of the comfy bed PLUS a place of privacy for a peaceful 'afternoon retreat/nap' if required ;-).

Such good advice already offered. Grans are so sensible and have such wisdom, often very hard won. Go with the flow, let your daughter make the decisions about rooms, lie back and enjoy the benefits of age. And most importantly have a lovely Christmas with your family.

When I go to Oz to visit my family it doesn’t matter who else is staying I’m always given best room. Also stay away from the kitchen, offer to load dish washer or clear up after but let your daughter steer her way through her kitchen. Enjoy your break away.

Enjoy the nice room. They probably wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable. Wishing you happy hols.
Loved your comment LULUAUGUST.