Friens booked surprise concert. Don't want to go.

Tell her you are having hearing problems and have been advised not to be exposed to unnecessary loud noise, so thanks , but you will not be able to attend on this ( or any other) occasion. Or just - it’s very kind of you , but sorry it’s just not for me, please give my ticket to someone else. Arrange a nice lunch instead.

Bridget I intend going to the meal. I know we'll have a lovely time with a nice group of people. Flowers and a note sounds a good idea. I know she would not want me to pay for the tickets.

Lessismore yes. I um...told her last time that I had enjoyed it although I wouldn't have without earplugs. I'm such a coward. We didn't think she would book it again.

Well, I think you have 3 choices, go & grit your teeth,or go but tell her you won’t go to the concert or the one you have already contemplated which is not to go. You could send her a bouquet of flowers with a note to that effect attached.
Ps as we get older I think we have earned the right to say no , best wishes

Grannylyn65 what I mean is if one of our friends is on gransnet they might put 2 and 2 together.

Let me get this right, she has booked and paid for something you find so unpleasant you have to wear ear plugs?

I know how you feel...d.i.l. used to buy tickets for concert or shows that I am not remotely interested in. And she always buys a pair (very sweet and generous of her), my friends are never interested either. The last time I sold the tickets on gumtree......I told my d.i.l. ....she took the hint ....she hasn't done that since. She buys me clothes instead. I love them.

‘Recognised’ ?????

FRIEND!!