paddynan, I don't live in 'a wee cocoon of bigotry'.
I know two young people, one transitioning female to male, the other male to female. I support their decisions. They were old enough to make them and I have some understanding of their struggles.
My concern is about the transactivists who attack women on social media. Use highly abusive terms to describe, for example, feminist lawyers who raise what. see as legitimate concerns about the rights/emotional and psychological needs of 4 year olds whose parent/guardian insists, against expert evidence, that the child believes s/he was born in the wrong body. I don't dispute that some very young children have often felt that way. I do dispute that it's always right to encourage them to see themselves as transgender at such a tender age.
Sensitive, loving parenting doesn't involve imposing our own emotional needs on our children, which in some cases is what is happening .
it's a complex issue and attacking someone who is wants to develop understanding and protect children, calling us 'bigots' doesn't help anyone.