Leggings!

Personally, I don't really care what anyone else wears. I try to dress how I think it suits me but maybe others would say they don't like what I am wearing? I guess it is all boils down to what you feel comfortable wearing for the occasion?

Obviously some people feel comfortable in tight leggings and skinny tops - no matter what their size? Doesn't upset or concern me in any way.

My one criticism was when I attended a wedding - it was an elderly relative who was marrying for the second time and a few of the younger ones wore jeans. I did think this was slightly disrespectful t.b.h. BUT...the bride and groom didn't seem to notice and I thought maybe I was just a tad out of order? Maybe we just have to live and let live and not worry about what anyone else's choice is?

I certainly wouldn’t want to look like some of the larger women who do look pretty obscene in leggings and short tops but I would love to have the confidence and self assurance that they must have.

Exactly, Lumarei, we all tend to judge. We don't say anything if we can help it, but maybe to family members (daughters) if we think they need some guidance. I'd rather be told if I looked ridiculous or was revealing too much!

I am with Monica, it is part of being human to look, think and compare. Every child has to learn this way in order to make sense of the world. It makes us intelligent beings.

We judge all the time. Someone with an angry face we try to avoid - whilst chatting to the lady with the kind smile.
Why would we stop judging people for their choice of how they look? As long as I keep it to myself and don’t offend anybody I can’t see where the problem is.
Our brain judges everything and those who say otherwise are not honest with themselves. It is what we do with the judgement that is important. If we hurt someone or spread rumours that is wrong.

There is a difference between judgement and preference I think. If I wear a green dress it may be because I like the way it looks in me and the colour, it doesn't mean I judge someone wearing a yellow dress or red dungarees. Not my business. Different situations often need different clothing, people have preferences in material, I k ow my tastes have changed over the years.
Sometimes I do feel a bit just if someone is wearing something inappropriate for an occasion, but I try and tell myself nine of my business and maybe she had to flee àn abusive relationship and escaped in the clothes she was wearing and she's doing the best she can. I'm afraid I did sort if judge my then soon to be ex husband at his father's funeral as he had a big food stain down his suit jacket, but didn't say anything about it, he must have been happy with that

I do wear leggings but always with long tunic/dress tops. I have been into our local town today and the thing that kept drawing my eye were girls/young ladies wearing shorts that their bum cheeks were hanging out of as they walked along. I feel pants would cover more but they would be wearing thongs i assume. Women/girls should not have it all on display

Ruthiek ?

I have often wondered why many women do not see themselves as others see them. It could be that they are less vain than many of us, and do not see how to make the best of themselves or have not been taught how to do it or just don't care anyway. Young women want to wear what is on sale cheaply and perhaps fool themselves a bit. They also want to wear the uniform of other young women, and especially if they are young mothers who have never worked anywhere with a dress code. Nobody is telling them that very tight jeans and leggings are a bit passe because they don't read fashion articles. They may still live in their teens, when going out looking awful was what annoyed their mothers. I often wish to get my hands on some girls and even mature women and give them a few tips on make up and hiding their blemishes but it is not my business and not their taste. My teens were in the 1950s when all clothes were pretty formal, though dresses were pretty. Wearing black stockings was considered pretty far out and tights were only for ballet dancers. Last of all, the example of "celebrities" is often stronger than any other.

First let me say I am 66 and a size 16/18, but my God these days it seems the fatter you are the shorter skirt/dress you wear. I often think “ fancy your Mum letting you go out in that” a lot of youngsters dung seem to want to look pretty anymore. OMG now I sound like my Mum !!!!

I don't like leggings worn in place of trousers. It never looks right to me. My daughter is a size 8 and been though she's tiny I still don't like it. Leggings with dresses ok by me though.

I wear leggings under trousers and no longer have an 'itchy bitchy' as I used to when I wore tights.... I now wear leggings with dresses too....

Why do people always talk about big women in leggins that look bad. I have seen very very skinny women look just as bad.
I wear leggins,always with long jumpers, and tunics, but it is annoying that people always dig out the bigger person. They like what they wear so what's with the shaming?
I am a size 16 and as people say to me I have a good shape and carry the weight on my hips and bum. I wear what suits me, but do not see the need to comment on others taste. Are larger/fat people a easy target?

When I posted yesterday about the choice of some ladies outfits yesterday it was done in a light hearted way. Just wanted to know how others view the appearance of someone walking along the street virtually naked . I was shocked to be honest. However I just wanted to say thank you for all your opinions, and taking the time to reply.
I am well aware my views are probably (old fashioned) but it was interesting to read all your points of view. Gave me food for thought!

I think we are all affected by how other people look, though we might not be consciously aware of it. When you see people scruffily dressed or who are careless of their appearance, it is depressing. Being surrounded by people who are clean and nicely dressed is uplifting.

I agree that tight leggings and crop tops on big people are not to my taste, its very hard not to make judgements, but some people clearly wear what they are comfortable in (or what they pick up from the bedroom floor!) and maybe that is to their taste? I am size 14 and do wear proper fitness leggings with a fitted, but longish, t shirt for the gym and Pilates and sometime cropped leggings and a long top for cycling. My DD is 31 and lives in leggings and often crop tops - but she is about size 8 and a fitness instructor!

I agree Kupari 45.It's not a nice look.I see a lot of bigger women where I live,getting on the bus with thin leggings and vest tops.They would look a lot nicer with a longer top

I wear leggings under my skirts in the winter, whenever I go out.

I would feel naked if I went anywhere in only leggings and a tee-shirt, but that is just me.

I used a pair of black leggings and an old long-sleeved tee-shirt for checking the grease and water levels in the engine room of our motor boat and cleaning the bilge. They are very useful for that as there is nothing that can get caught on anything in the engine room.

People should be free to chose what they want to wear, but I admit, I was shocked at the sight of a young woman in her twenties wearing a pair of skin tight leggings that hugged her very nice bum and its neighbours. The young man who was with me, almost walked into a lamp-post at the sight.

Like the OP said, the bottom showing when wearing leggings is, for me also, like going out with only tights and no skirt. It must be a generation thing. I think some people feel that when something is a 'fashion', it should be adopted, regardless of whether it suits or not.

I don't mind if overweight women wear leggings. I'd not notice. I very rarely notice anything to be honest. But I love leggings with a nice long T shirt or tunic top. Comfort is my main thing now.

With Gonegirl on this one. I wear leggings/jeggings with long tunic tops. Really comfortable and can look very smart.

I think the key words there are 'my' and 'own personal choices'.

Obviously I judge myself. Sometimes harshly, sometimes kindly. But others, I try not to. Why would I want to? Either it's someone I don't know and it's therefore pointless and unkind or if it's someone I do know, it's just unkind.

Do you bundle judgements on clothes into a separate section of your brain or do you not make judgements on anything other people do? food, jobs, behaviour, etc? How do you make your own personal choices on clothes or do you just buy the first thing you see, regardless of style or size. I truly admire you.

Personally, I cannot make it across my living room without making a judgment about my environment, even if it is just that the cushions would look better if plumped up.

Condescending much Crazygran? 'Some larger people manage to look great'????

100% Hithere. Personal freedom. No one else's business.

MOnica, absolutely. Make no decision about the dress sense of others. None of our business.

For those that ARE judgemental, I hope your sartorial sense is that of either the Queen or a fashionista. Judge not lest ye be judged.

Less attractive than being badly dressed?, er isn't this doing just what you have condemned Stella14?

Making a judgment that some people are badly dressed.

To be unjudgmental is to take every choice of outfits on every person and make no decision at all as to whether the outfit is part of a well dressed, dressed or badly dressed ensemble.

I agree with GagaJo, women criticising other women’s appearance is never a ‘good look’. Judgemental is not an attractive quality! Less attractive than being badly dressed?