Is your house More tidy or More messy since you have been on your own.

DH is still with me, but when he was working he travelled a lot on business, often for weeks, sometimes for months at a time.

The house is always tidier when he is a way. I like the environment around me to be absolutely tidy so that I know where everything is.

I always swore I could never marry a man who smoked or one who was untidy. DH kept his disorder carefully hidden until we were married and I have been combatting it ever since. I simply cannot function if everything round me is disordered.

less tidy and it is 4 1/2 years and the reason is that there is so much to do, all the garden, the house cleaning, emptying the dish washer. One early thing that hit me was that any dishes left in the sink remained there. My husband was quietly excellent in the house

Since then I have downsized possessions and packed up a 4 bed house with snug and study, sold it, found a house and moved in and by myself turned the garden from a builders dump to what is going to be a stunning calming place to sit. I bought and moved 33 bags of gravel and 50 bags of soils, so yes the house is not as tidy but I don`t care. It is my home

I'm not on my own, still have Mr. S. but I didn't want to not respond to you bikergran.

Maybe you feel that now you're on your own it doesn't matter if the house is tidy but judging by your post, I think it does.

You say it's 5 years since you lost your DH, could it be that you are still trying to come to terms with your loss? Is there someone who could come and give you a hand? Sometimes when things mount up they can seem over facing, and once sorted it's much easier to keep on top.

It really doesn't matter you know, if your house could do with a good tidy. It only matters if it matters to you.

Less tidy. Even up until a couple of years ago I was tidier than I am now but, since moving house, I just can't be bothered very much. It's clean but that's all! If I'm expecting anyone to call, I rush around tidying up like crazy!

More tidy , my DD says it is because I never move !