Recipricocity

Every year for about 23 years, I have sent my friend a birthday card and a Christmas card and have never received one in return. I don’t think she even knows when my birthday is and has never bothered to enquire either. I sometimes wonder why I bother but then I do enjoy remembering people on their birthdays and at Christmas time.

I’d certainly stop sending cards n money

Riverwalk I'm just wondering why adults send birthday money to each other hmm Does anyone else do this?

No - why would you? It just says ‘I can’t be bothered thinking of a present for you and I can’t even be bothered going online and ordering a few flowers’

I send to niece and her children on DH's side, birthday card for her and card and a tenner each for the children. Also small things for Christmas.

Never get anything from them except the occasional Christmas card, not even thank yous. But they live close to SiL and I think they expect to be included on the cards she sends!

They're always friendly and welcoming when we get together, so I just let it go.

I sent my sister in law a birthday card for years. She never thanked me or sent me one. Eventually I got fed up and stopped sending them. My brother phoned me and had a go at me for stopping sending them. What a cheek.

I send him cards but not money as he's got more than me.

My brother always includes a cheque with my B/Card----and Christmas card too.

In future just send a card (go to the cheap cards shop!)

My brother has never, ever sent me a card or asked about my well being.

I would have given up after the first couple of years. Sad that more and more people seem to only show care and consideration for their immediate family but seems to be much more common now. Sad but a sign of the more selfish times we live in.

Maybe your brother and sister in law just don't want to get caught up in this cycle mimismo it was a kind thought but maybe just a card in future.

I'd stop that straight away

I got wise after a while when it was one way traffic (us to them) with siblings/in laws.

As we were first in family to have children, they stopped sending cards&presents after their respective 18th birthdays/Christmas and I carried on until theirs celebrated 18th/Christmas accordingly.

Faces were pulled the following year by some and the odd comment/reminder came our way until I said ‘Oh sorry, I thought you’d decided not to bother now that they’re adults?’

I'm just wondering why adults send birthday money to each other hmm

I'm wondering the same thing. Why on earth are you sending money to them ? Ridiculous.

I'm just wondering why adults send birthday money to each other

Does anyone else do this?

Dreadful, don’t send anything again.
DHs brother and SIL are the same, we always sent birthday and Christmas gifts of things that we would enjoy ourselves. After years of ignorance, we no longer send anything other than a card.

Ofcourse, I'd be indignant. Don't send any more cards or cheques....