I have recently been updating my Will , leaving money to my 2 AC and 2 grandchildren and DH. I would like to leave equal shares to my son and daughter but feel ver torn about this.
During his 16 year marriage which ended 3years ago he got into serious debt several times . He always worked hard to provide for his wife and two children but my ex DIL was a spendthrift who was always trying to keep up with wealthier friends and they lived beyond their means. My son admits he was weak and didn’t do enough to stop her overspending.
He is still working and sending her money for the children but is going through the family courts as he hasn’t seen the children for 3years. He is gradually paying off his debts.
My daughter and husband also work hard and have 2 teenage children. They struggle sometimes but are good with finance and never in debt.
AIBU in hesitating to leave them equal shares in my Will and to consider leaving less to my son, in view of his past record with finances? I am posting for the first time and would welcome your thoughts.
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