To help a damsel in distress?

Take care of yourself and put your metaphorical life jacket on before rescuing others!

UPDATE:
Thank you for your kindly responses, you have surprised me, I expected more of a telling off!

So, do you want to know what TWM said? I didn’t actually tell him, I just gave him my iPad and asked him to read my post. His response was a very cheery, “well done”.

I live in a peaceful town with a very low crime rate, so this kind of event is not the norm I’m glad to say.

For those of you worried about me taking in strangers, TWM and I have been doing this for the past thirty three years, so I knew that was not going to be an issue.

It was the right thing to do, so hats off for being brave enough to do so. Many of us would have been scared and may not have intervened.
Sadly, we must be cynical as it's a wicked world. Rarely, a 'commotion' is staged so that help is offered and then the poor helper is beaten up or robbed. Dreadful, isn't it? It takes a brave and trusting soul to offer help the next time.
I'm so glad that didn't happen to you.

Probably the adrenaline kicked in and you responded.

We can't always weigh up everything. I have waded in sometimes. I actually feel that is what is needed if we are human.

Tricky though, to balance that against your safety.

I once saw a young girl , Oriental appearance, wearing what looked like a short dressing gown and barefooted. An older man appeared to be sort of frog marching her along. I observed from afar and pondered. It turned out it was his daughter and a load of teens had been messing about in the local park.

Thank you Riggie.
It was horrendous, he was sitting reading his book when it occured.
The person stood over him punching him in the face and head... screaming abuse.
As he was sitting down, he could barely defend himself.....nobody called the police, tried to ensure he was okay afterwards etc.
The whole thing was made worse because he suffers from severe mental health conditions...the effect on him was devastating.

First of all, well done for helping that girl but as your Wonderful Man slept through it all, why bother telling him ?
I think I'd just say that there was a bit of fuss last night outside and leave it at that and only if he mentions it first!

Why do you have to 'fess' up? What about? You did a good job.

You did the right thing grannyactivist and used your judgement too.

Well done.

I would have done exactly the same thing. Well done you, as many other have said and it sounds like you thought it through quickly and intelligently. WM may only be concerned for your safety and wish you had woken him up.

I didn't need to imagine it was my daughter/granddaughter to know that I thought you were extremely brave (you didn't really know what would happen when you went down your path) and definitely did the right thing. I'm not sure everyone would have done it, but well done you for putting someone else's well-being ahead of any concerns you might have had.

Thats awful Dee. Even if someone had only offered to phone someone for him it would have been something.

I would have done the same grannyactivist - and have done so in the past. And like harrigran my daughter took in a young woman escaping a violent partner. We sometimes just have to take a “risk” on someone else’s behalf.

It’s not just how few/busy the police are it’s just about humanity. Better on the whole to be treated kindly when distressed.

But, Grannyactivist, when you “fess up” it will only be what he knew you would do, and he’ll love you for it!

Well

We'll done......very brave !

All I can say is well done you! As someone else commented, too many people would have done nothing!
A few years ago, my brother was returning home from work on busy public transport and was assaulted by someone unknown, quite badly.
Not one person helped him, even after the assailant ran off.

sometimes the adrenalin kicks in and you just go for it! Well done though I'm sure her Mum was grateful that you helped out.

It is a very sad world we live in when we have to be worried about the consequences of helping others. Absolutely you did the right thing, the girl's mum will have been so grateful to you, as well as the girl herself, and I would think the boyfriend too! I am sorry for you that you don't live in a quieter neighbourhood.

We heard a large crash outside our house one night, and looking out a car had ploughed into two huge cypresses at the end of our neighbour's drive and demolished them. My husband went out to investigate and found a young couple giggling, apparently they had been canoodling whilst driving ("I was wiv her") and not surprisingly the driver had got distracted! The police arrived and advised our neighbour not to press charges, they were from a caravan site a mile down the road and known to be violent!

I think I would have shouted from the door to chase off the rabble and called to the girl to come to you.
I once took in a young woman who was fleeing from an abusive partner but I was only young myself. I had no way of knowing whether he would follow her and cause problems and I had a tiny baby in the house.
All's well that ends well but it could have turned ugly.

That was a brave and wonderful thing you did GA, and I agree with all the above comments.

I think/know you should have woken your wonderful man, but instinct does take over, and you came to the rescue.

How do you feel now, in the cold light of day?
Considering that you have been very unwell recently, I hope this hasn't set you back.
Many bunches of for you.

Forgive me for my question but are you asking if YWBU for helping or for not waking your H?
I think any one of us would have helped, we did a similar thing and we also didn't call the police but called the girls parents who picked her up.
I assume if things had gone pearshaped in your home your H would have been alerted by you.
However well done for acting and not turning over to go back to sleep.

I think you were very brave. I also agree with Lyndiloo though about letting strangers into your home. But sometimes you have to stand up and be counted.

I would have woken my husband up though and he would have gone outside.

What the others have said.

If/when the wonderful man gets cross with you, you know it's only because he loves you.

You could 'agree' with him that it perhaps wasn't the wisest thing to do, and that if something similar was to happen again that you would 'think twice' before intervening. (Not a lie, I'm sure - I bet you 'thought twice' before getting involved on this occasion too, before deciding that you couldn't do nothing.)

Whatever his reaction, you did a good, couragous thing, and I bet he will be proud of you, even if he doesnt admit it because his concern for you outweighs it.

If more people acted as you did and didn’t ‘walk by on the other side’ society would be a better place.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

How kind and brave of you grannya
I’m sure ‘The Wonderful Man’ will be very proud of you ☺️
Hope you feel a little better soon ?