To think this is a damn cheek!

Why not suggest ham sandwiches, that could be prepared ahead of time. With tea or coffee and christening cake to follow

If she is a close friend and wanted help she could have invited you to the christening (even if you don't know the parents) and asked if you would give her a hand and I'm sure you would have. As it is she's treating you like a skivvy and saying you won't have to clear up and they'll buy you lunch is just adding more insult. Tell her to fry her own bacon because if you went you'd be tempted to spit in it.

phoenix has she forgotten that you still work and strangely you like to relax on a Sunday. It is entirely up to you whether you have a lie in or clean the place.

I think she has a bloody cheek.

Alexa I don't see how being on my own in the Memorial Hall kitchen grilling bacon counts as being "included"!

Actually, you are right about Sunday mornings being spent wandering around drinking coffee, but I don't do it naked!

Could your friend have thought she was doing you a favour? Sort of including you ? Why not tell her you prefer to spend a Sunday morning wandering around undressed drinking coffee?

I think she has a cheek ringing you up to ask that when you do not see much of each other! YANBU in any way at all.

She pasteurises milk on a dairy farm!

Being nice i wonder if she thinks you need the money (mr p being ill)
Still think unacceptable due to no invite
P.s. what job does a granny do starting 2am!

Bacon butties for a breakfast christening i get although not very classy
But treating a friend like the caterer no
Being offered money even more of an insult
Not being invited totally unacceptable
Send card for child to show you at least have good manners

Classic I take your point, but it wasn't quite like that!

She started with the usual "how are you?" and after I'd told her about Mr P being ill, the problem with the bathroom etc, she said " oh, perhaps it's not a good time to ask you this" and then promptly did!

I had the distinct impression that asking me to do the bacon was the primary reason for the call!

Please let us know her reaction when you tell her Phoenix.

I like the idea someone else mentioned about telling her you’ve now been INVITED to another christening!

It sounds odd. I wonder if she may feel you're as close as a sister and assumes you'd want to help. (???)

Was payment mentioned?

I get your point. I have paid my son to do decorating rather than professionals.
But thats not the same as asking a friend to cook some bacon..for what a few pounds? If I thought it was being done to help me financially I would be insulted and embarrassed.
Not a great idea.

In your conversation with her you were telling her about your cut in work hours, and subsequent loss in pay, and about your flooded bathroom with its associated expense.
So your friend saw a way in which she could help you, a little job, not too onerous, she could get a caterer in, who would clean up afterwards etc. but rather than spend the money with someone else she gave you the first refusal, sounds like a good friend to me.
In my family, if there is a little job to be done its always offered out to 'tender' within the family before the money is spent with an outsider. I doubt that your friend was trying to insult you, just looking for a way of helping with your cash flow problem.

If you're on the desktop site, abbreviations are under 'Acronyms' at the top of the page.
Can't find them on the mobile site tho.

You can look them up!

AIBU = Am I being unreasonable, therefore, YANBU = You are not being

i too wish somone would list all abbreviations i am at a loss

attempts at persuasion followed by sulking

Who cares?
I'd be honest and say I don't want to do it.

Cheeky sod.

Callistemon - great idea. I’ll bring the beer.

Oh yes, Hetty58 I plan to make it very clear!

(But politely, of course!)

Do make sure that it's a definite, firm NO, won't you phoenix!

I wouldn't make up any excuse. I would just text ring back and say I can't do it, sorry.
What a damn cheek. Unbelievable. I don't know how you managed to be polite in response.

Many thanks for all the posts and the

GrannySquare if you read back, we have not actually been invited to the Christening, just asked to cook the bacon!

Do you know, I'm actually now looking forward to speaking to her and saying NO

Having a bet with myself as to what her reaction will be!