I hardly dare adding another dog problem post, but here we go...
D and SiL have lovely but completely bonkers springer spaniel , dh and I have two cats. As we live a couple of hours away from each other, visits either direction tend to be weekend visits including one or two nights. Initially they brought the dog with them and we hoped this would not be too much of a problem, but she gets overexcited and I have been told that springer spaniels don’t on the whole really calm down for quite a while. Our cats on the other hand get completely freaked out and just move out , sitting on garden walls looking at us rather reproachfully, only just coming back in for their food. One of them disappeared completely for a couple of days.
Particularly now that there is a little grandchild, I don’t want to become the difficult family, but I am also beginning to resent having been put into this position in the first place where this seems to be our problem to solve. Grandchild is more important than pets, no doubt about that , and I would like to find a solution that is fair to everybody.
I have been told that the dog is part of their family and have said that I hope they understand that the cats are part of ours too and that perhaps we can work out some sort of compromise .
Visiting them is of course not a problem, as we wouldn’t bring our cats. For their visits to us my idea is at the moment as follows: For summer visits the dog can come and the cats won’t come to any harm camping outside most of the time. In winter however I am not really happy with them being driven out of their home and having to stay outside, so D and SiL would have to find a solution for not being able to bring the dog. I would also offer that if they really can’t find a dog sitter , they would have to let me know early enough, and I would look for places in a cattery.
Reasonable? I so don’t want this to be one of those situations that festers!
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