Hetty58. How does being a doormat and prepared to skivvy for your children prove to your children that you love them unconditionally.
I had parents who loved me unconditionally, throughout a childhood dogged by illness, long hospital stays, when my parents could not visit regularly and other problems. The one sure foundation to my childhood that enabled me to get through all kinds of vicissitudes was the knowledge that no matter what happened to me, no matter what I did, my parents love for me was unconditional.
As with my parents I love my children unconditionally and they know that no matter what they do, we will always be there for them, but I have been a parent that has encouraged my children to stand on their own feet, to face up to the consequences of their actions, and when they were in their bouncing stage; bouncing between them living at home and away, they were expected to contribute to their keep if earning, manage their own laundry and clean their own rooms. We have been unable to provide much in the childcare line because we live 200 miles away, but in any emergency they know we will be there - and have been on a number of occasions. They know we will not fail them, but equally they know we expect them to stand on their own two feet and act like adults in most circumstances.
Skivvying is not a necessity for unconditional love.