Cherb thank you so much for this! You read my mind re: Your concerns, which are exactly what my niggling thoughts are. This is deeper than a few pics, it was exactly that which you’ve outlined and reading it has made me cry with gratitude that someone has understood! The pics are simply a metaphor for my current emotional quandary.
I feel that distance can be achieved with him still living here - it’s about my emotional boundaries at the end of the day - to see if, with time, the relationship can grow and flourish as this would be healing for me. As you say, I want this to be the catalyst of a new chapter where I can feel confident in my own self worth. It also helps me to develop a healthier attachment in relationships instead of the all or nothing approach.
The odd job stuff I will overlook unless it gets out of hand - it’s still his house and his kids and as such he has a vested interest - and he has shown his son how to remove the oil cap on her car so that’s another thing his kids can take on for her! He is ultimately a man who needs to be liked and wanted and is very keen to be seen as the innocent victim. Let’s see how I feel once my CBT has started.
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic