Still not met three week old grandson.

That's quite a nasty post welbeck, and you're jumping to a lot of conclusions about the op that are not backed up by anything she's posted.

In fact it's a post that says more about you than the person you're criticising.

In the end it all comes down to whether or not your daughter in law is kind enough to realise that of course you’re longing to see the baby, and just putting her happy face on for half an hour, she only has to sit there, I’m sure nothing more will be expected from her.

I find the whole situation a bit strange, if I was her mother I think I would definitely have tried to persuade her to invite you over for a brief visit, sorry, but they don’t seem like very nice people to me.

Why did agnurse's puppy need surgery? Is it ok? What a shame! Poor little thing. Wishing it a speedy recovery very soon agnurse.

Who’s had surgery and given birth to a puppy ! . Just ridiculous.

you don't sound very respectful of the parents' wishes.
maybe that's why they are not keen on a visit.
remember you have no rights in this situation; if you cannot comport yourself in a way they find acceptable, they may not let you have contact with the child, because maybe they find you hard work.
I am not taking sides here but merely pointing out the reality.
however much you think it is unfair is irrelevant. there is no court to which you can appeal with these claims of unfairness.
so you will have to restrain yourself in order to have any contact at all.
you seem to regard it as a right. but they are the child's parents, and they make the decisions.
you do not have a right, it is a favour which they may or may not extend to you.
if you have an entitled attitude they will not want you around, causing a tense atmosphere.
you have to accept the reality. you need them if you want to see the child.
they do not need you. they have what they need, their child.

I now am very confused, what happened while I was away from the thread watching White House Farm?!

Had the paternal grandparents had a brief visit to see the baby say hello and congratulate the mum and dad I would say nothing to a three or four week break to bond as a new family, get over teething problems etc and I don’t think Happygran would either she sounds a reasonable lady but it’s not normal to keep them away for so long and pretty mean and unnecessary and yes I know all about stitches, mastitis, difficult feeders, colic and all but I wouldn’t dream of not letting the grandparents have a visit however brief ...it’s selfish
Glad you ve at least had the nice video let’s hope it’s very soon a cuddle
Take no notice of some posters rather cruel replies

As analogies go agnurse, that has to be one of the weirdest I've ever seen

MissAdventure
Thank you for your support. Xx

Thank you Scentia.
The nice replies were lovely though. Slept tight. X

It's your posts that aren't "FAAAAAAAIR" agnurse and why on earth are you going on about surgery?

I'm glad your son has sent a video of your GS sleeping Happygran, Hopefully it wont be long now until you get your first cuddle.

A great post Newmom reasonable and full of common sense, two things that are missing in some of the responses on here. Good luck with your pregnancy.

Good night happygran1964

Sorry you have had some rubbish replies to your thread.

Well, if one of my children was being treated unfairly and told me about it, I’d have made sure fairness was restored.

What did you do, agnurse?

Sweet dreams.

Puppies? surgery?
I’m outta here. G’ night. ?

Oh come on - phone them and say when can we come over? Or "we are on our way"
. Bring flowers and chocs or whatever and don't stay too long.

The longer this is left, the worse it will become. Health professionals have seen the baby.The other grans have seen the baby. What is so scary about you? Is there are problem with the baby they don't want to tell you?

When my DS3 was born at home, everyone and his friend was being allowed in to see the baby. I had to put a stop to it and negotiate visiting times.

The inlaws arrived with a roast chicken and a bottle of champagne on about day 2 or 3. My own DM was far away but I'm sure we saw her as soon as we could.

I think it is rude of your son and dil not to have had you to see the baby. A quick visit within the first day or so to meet him would not have hurt. It would not have to be a long one or one that was repeated regularly but in 3 weeks there surely would have been some times that you could have been asked to pop in for a short time. Particularly as you live close by.
Having said that I don't think not seeing him at this stage will impact on you bonding with him. That may come later.

Who’s got a puppy?

Lol who has had major surgery? What?

I'd let them come and see the puppy, if it was me.
Hardly the same as a grandchild though.
I'd probably go out for lunch and leave the puppy with them for an hour or so.

I agree MissAdventure

OP there are some posts you’d be better off scrolling past.

happygran you (and anyone else, for that matter) will never be right in some posters opinions, so don't take anything to heart.

Scentia

Consider that you've just had major surgery. You also have a new puppy, and this new puppy is very, very needy. All of your family and friends want to meet your new puppy. It's been three weeks, you're still adjusting to having the new puppy, and you're recovering from surgery. You have your mother and sister at your house, doing laundry, cleaning the house, making you meals, and helping you care for the puppy. Suddenly, your family and friends get very upset. How DARE you not let them come see your puppy! It's only going to be for 15 minutes! Doesn't matter that you just had surgery, it was ONLY surgery! It's all about them, and it's not fair!

You all do realize that comparing how much time OP gets to how much time DIL's family get (which is none of OP's business anyway) is identical to when your children were young and they told you, "But so-and-so gets to have/get/do/eat whatever! I don't! It's not FAAAAAAAIR!" What was your response to them then? Why should it be different now?

the paternal granny trap
Well, I'm a very happy parental granny. I met all my GC and had a cuddle on Day 1. Do not tar all MiLs, paternal or otherwise, with the same brush. Some of us are good friends with our DiLs and their mothers too.