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Do we still set higher standards for women?

(164 Posts)
Witzend Tue 03-Mar-20 12:58:47

Who was it who said, ‘Whatever a woman does, she has to do it twice as well as a man, to be thought half as good. Luckily this is not difficult.’
(or words to that effect)

Greymar Tue 03-Mar-20 12:34:43

It's not OK for Sarah Lancashire to change her dress size apparently.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Tue 03-Mar-20 12:33:50

Yes, I think we women are still expected to be better than men - as though we are moral guardians of all and sundry. When I was at school (blimey - 50 years ago) a teacher said that it was up to women to put the brakes on. Does our 'bad behavior' give men the green light to do as they please because we're not setting an example? Is that right? Or just the way it is?

GrannyGravy13 Tue 03-Mar-20 12:30:07

I am sorry to say that women are far more critical of other women than they are of men.

Agree Anniebach John Bercow did not receive anywhere near the abuse that Priti Patel has.

If a man is strong and forceful he is in control of the situation

If a woman is strong and forceful she is frequently called a bully, bitchy or a stroppy madam

Davida1968 Tue 03-Mar-20 12:21:58

Yes, I'm sorry to say that we do set higher standards for women. I agree fully with Anniebach.

Anniebach Tue 03-Mar-20 12:19:21

Diane Abbott defended John Bercow when he was accused of
bullying but called for Priti Patel to resign following allegations of bullying. This is not political.

sodapop Tue 03-Mar-20 12:16:29

So true Chewbacca

Chewbacca Tue 03-Mar-20 12:14:07

And we all know how critical some of the recent comments were about Theresa May and Tracy Brabbin's dress sense were don't we? BJ looks like he's been dragged through a hedge backwards but that's ok isn't it. Women in the public eye are criticised mercilessly. hmm

GagaJo Tue 03-Mar-20 12:08:21

Ooooo yes Greymar! OK for a bloke to be fat, wrinkly and bald. BUT if it were a woman...

Anniebach Tue 03-Mar-20 11:48:33

Yes, and still women who expect women to be more virtuous
and moral

Greymar Tue 03-Mar-20 11:29:33

Yes, God help them if they gain weight.

NotSpaghetti Tue 03-Mar-20 11:08:25

No, I can’t imagine that woman becoming PM.

And yes, we always expect more of women.

And yes, this is out of date.

GagaJo Tue 03-Mar-20 11:05:11

1) YES it's massively out of date.

2) Yes, we still do. Men, particularly wealthy white men, get away with murder (literally murder at times - compared to women who commit the same crimes).

trisher Tue 03-Mar-20 10:49:28

The recent news of the Boris baby has been widely commented on. One question I heard asked was "Can you imagine a woman with 6 children by different men and numerous sexual partners ever being elected to parliament, never mind becoming PM?" So do we still expect our women to be more moral and more virtuous whereas men can do what they choose? And isn't that just out of date?