Gransnet forums

AIBU

Want to scream at husband....

(40 Posts)
Patsy70 Sun 22-Mar-20 16:19:49

How do you put up with these idle men? It must be love. I agree with others that you should carry on with your job and caring for your Mother and let people know what a lazy, lying moron he is. angry

pinkquartz Sun 22-Mar-20 16:04:04

EllanVallan

I wonder if the Virus will become a defense for murder?
I can well imagine people losing the plot. Being mostly housebound anyway I know it tends to make me lose perspective and easily lose my temper....

AGAA4 Sun 22-Mar-20 15:58:36

People who take advantage of this situation should be shot ashamed .
There are many in critical jobs, who could be at risk if they catch the virus but carry on working for the greater good.

SalsaQueen Sun 22-Mar-20 15:47:37

I went shopping this morning, after I'd changed the beds, put the washer on, fed the cat, prepared a large curry for lunch. I told him he had better hoover downstairs and empty the dishwasher - or else. I got back an hour later, and he'd done those things. He says he doesn't know if he's going to work tomorrow (He doesn't get paid so it'll be SSP) but I've got to go to work tomorrow, so I'll leave him a list of things to do, including tomorrow night's dinner grin. The lazy swine.

Classic Sun 22-Mar-20 15:40:57

Salsa queen, yep mines exactly the same. He took the friday off, but he had already relinquished Wed Thur and Fri of his pre booked annual leave to help them cover. The Friday he took off will be taken from his leave. But he too does nothing around the house and garden, I've started to just not cook dinner, he wont go without his dinner so he will actually make dinner, I just have to clean up cooker and every pan and implement we own!

SalsaQueen Sat 21-Mar-20 18:50:25

I think if mine dares to stay off work on Monday, I'll have to kill him grin. I wouldn't mind, but he does nothing whatsoever in the house when he's off. Moan over.......I've got to go and kick him grin

annsixty Sat 21-Mar-20 13:16:43

Why don’t you.
We would all vouch for you citing extenuating circumstances.?

SalsaQueen Sat 21-Mar-20 13:02:51

I fully understand what you mean. My husband is the same - on Wednesday, he came home early from work (10am)as he had a sore throat - no other symptoms- and he has been at home since. He's been sitting there, as usual, reading, watching tv, doing his crosswords. He's certainly not lost his appetite (for food OR beer). There's been nothing wrong with him!

I work as Warden of a sheltered housing scheme, and I also deliver meals to a special needs school - they will be staying open. I'm still doing all the housework, shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry. etc. HE has done nothing at all. I could throttle the moron. angry

Grandad1943 Sat 21-Mar-20 12:05:46

There are many of both sexes that are and will take false time off from work throughout this crisis. With many absentee penalty systems being suspended by employers at this time, the above is guaranteed to happen and continue.

Unless your other half is showing any real signs of infection the best advice for the opening poster would be to carry on as normal.

Your husband could also return to work on Monday and just state that it is a very mild cold. In our company, we would be only too grateful that he stayed away while he was suspicious of himself being infected with Covid-19.

Simple's, no requirement to create a mountain out of a molehill.

EllanVannin Sat 21-Mar-20 12:03:43

Hahahaha, there'll be a few strangulations before this lot ends.

Sussexborn Sat 21-Mar-20 11:50:27

As Sparklefizz suggests also adding he wins hypochondriac of the year award! Can understand why you are fuming and upset with your Mum so poorly. Has he always been an idiot?

Sparklefizz Sat 21-Mar-20 11:38:21

Just post another announcement on FB saying "False alarm" !

rosenoir Sat 21-Mar-20 11:31:28

If he didnt have a high temp then I do not see why you have to isolate.

If anyone asks just say he took his temp after announcing on Facebook and it was fine.

midgey Sat 21-Mar-20 11:17:10

You must be incandescent!

Classic Sat 21-Mar-20 11:15:22

We are both in early 60's well and working. At his work, lots of people have gone off to self isolate so hes had to do extra. Yesterday he decided he felt hot so would stay home. He put on social media that he was off with a temperature. I took his temperature and its not raised at all. Hes sitting with his outdoor wear fleece on top of a tee shirt, and it's still not raised! Today he has popped out to the shops and is talking about going back to work, I've tried explaining to him that now hes declared himself as having a temperature to work and the world, then he and I have to self isolate for 14 days. I need to work, and I have a dying mother I need to spend time with. Thanks to his feeling like a duvet day, and getting sympathy on social media, I now feel that morally I should be in isolation at home for 14 days, the last thing I needed, yet I know hes fine and has shown no symptoms at all. I want to scream at him, ( yes I want to wring his neck too) His reasoning is that he doesnt think he has Corvid19 and he should be okay to go about his normal life, that as he is now saying he might only be coming down with a bit of a cold on social media, he should be able to carry on as normal. The repercussions for me are that my family now think I must stay home, stay away from our mum, not go to work, all for a prat saying he had a temperature when he doesnt. sad