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.....to ask people to read the thread?

(61 Posts)
Lucca Mon 30-Mar-20 09:43:08

I don’t understand how people so often post the same thing as has been said many times before! I skipped a page by accident the other day (Pinot Grigio ? Dirty spectacles ?)and marydoll quite rightly pointed out that I was repeating what she had said. But then someone is on that thread again asking for the answer.....grrr! Not to mention the shepherds pie cottage pie thread with 83 identical explanations..... the asking for advice threads where you get “I think you should speak to a solicitor”. And three posts later “have you thought of seeing a solicitor “
Rant over ...

oldgimmer1 Mon 30-Mar-20 12:10:46

I don't know if anyone has said this yet (haven't read the thread blushgrin) but on a PC the OP appears at the top of every page, highlighted.

It really helps focus the mind on responding to the OP. Could that be an option?

Or, of the OP is satisfied with the responses, could s/he not indicate this in some way, to prevent repetition of answers?

Like a "thread closed" symbol or something?

Eloethan Mon 30-Mar-20 11:54:43

If there is a long thread, I think it is inevitable that people either don't read it all or skip through and miss certain information. I don't see it as a major problem. (and probably someone else has already made this point!).

If it gets tedious, just don't read it.

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 11:37:28

Sorry, didn't mean for my post to sound snappy, just curious.

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 11:36:51

Laughing now about about kittylester's plant dilemma thread the other day

Why read the threads if the answer is repeated endlessly and this annoys you?
There are lots of other threads.

I am used to repeating myself too, vena11
Just a 'yes dear' would suffice grin

jaylucy Mon 30-Mar-20 11:25:08

Sorry, but if someone is asking for an opinion, does it mean that just because you agree with someone else, doesn't mean that you shouldn't post your comment. If you don't want answers from complete strangers, just don't ask !

Marydoll Mon 30-Mar-20 11:23:31

Baggs, I know you too well. grin, not offended.

I was just getting really frustrated last night , but so pleased to see so many joining in and actually enjoying it.

Anyway, my baps are rising, I ahve more pressing matters to attend at the moment. wink

NotSpaghetti Mon 30-Mar-20 11:20:07

I’m with you on the “thank you it’s been solved” thing BlueBelle!
Really frustrating!

Baggs Mon 30-Mar-20 11:13:37

BTW, marydoll there is a wink emoji after that post about it never being a waste of time to do maths wink

BlueBelle Mon 30-Mar-20 11:13:20

It is annoying some one comes on and says ‘thanks everyone you ve shown me what to do’ and then you get a stream of ideas, then the original posters says ‘yes thanks I ve solved the problem’ then you get another stream of ideas and you even get sone people opening threads two years old with an idea that’s been muted 2 years ago and it’s equally annoying if you come up with a well thought out mulled over idea and half a dozen posts on someone says oh have you thought of so and so and a stream of posts saying that’s a good idea well done you

Maggiemaybe Mon 30-Mar-20 11:05:57

I haven’t seen the puzzle thread, but won’t the point be to try to solve it yourself? Not to scroll through looking at everyone else’s answers? In that case I’d just post my answer, then scroll up to see if it was right.

Pittcity Mon 30-Mar-20 11:03:34

Same in this house Vena!

vena11 Mon 30-Mar-20 10:57:57

I don't post much but I do read but I seem to always read things and then realise there are a few pages so I don't bother saying anything. No point in repeating what others have all ready said. Mind you in my house I have to repeat a lot of things over and over grin

Baggs Mon 30-Mar-20 10:50:42

Exactly, Calli. Also people are free to waste their time in any way they choose

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 10:47:51

I've just done it on the knitting thread.

If it's worth saying, it's worth saying twice (or three times, or four or more)
Sometimes I have even been guilty of repeating myself on the same thread.

I will try, honestly

Baggs Mon 30-Mar-20 10:45:10

If posters had read the whole thread, they wouldn't have wasted their time.

It’s never a waste of time to do a mathematical problem Marydoll

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 10:45:08

carrying sausages grin gilly

Um, possibly guilty if it is a long thread, sometimes I have answered the OP.

The maths one was annoying but perhaps posters just wanted to try and work it out for themselves
Then get it wrong grin

Lucca Mon 30-Mar-20 10:43:06

Baggs “Freedom and tolerance matter.” Indeed they do and I am sorry if I gave the opposite impression!

Meanwhile there is a loooong thread displaying anything but tolerance !

phoenix Mon 30-Mar-20 10:40:18

The OP is green, but it would be helpful if replies posted by the person who started the thread were also green,iykwim.

Marydoll Mon 30-Mar-20 10:37:55

Baggs, I think what Lucca may be referring to was the maths puzzle, which was solved and the calculation explained, and people were still posting with what they thought the answer was.
If posters had read the whole thread, they wouldn't have wasted their time.
However, another way of looking at it, is it resulted in a great deal of interaction between posters. smile

Eglantine21 Mon 30-Mar-20 10:33:12

It doesn’t bother me when people chip in. Except the ones that beat the same old drum regardless of the opening post.?

I once posted with a problem that had arisen with a friend. I could see it had two sides to it so I said at the start that I would take the majority view.

In that case it was helpful that a number of people gave their individual take on the situation. Especially the ones that gave me a hard time. It helped me see it from the other person’s point of view.

Baggs Mon 30-Mar-20 10:31:47

Other posters are not responsible for my feelings about how thread should be nor anyone else’s. Freedom and tolerance matter.

Baggs Mon 30-Mar-20 10:30:22

^ Bags....I’d have thought particularly now people have ample time to read the whole thread !!^

I daresay they might have but they also have freedom to do what they choose rather than what someone else think they should do. Not reading a whole thread is harmless.

Calendargirl Mon 30-Mar-20 10:29:33

On my I pad, the OP is coloured green.

Can’t say I agree with you Baggs about not reading the thread. If you don’t read the thread and corresponding replies properly, it’s no wonder they go off track and huge rants not applicable to the OP.

But if they go on for ages, I just don’t read them as they can get boring.

Also huge long original posts, especially if they’re copying stuff from the media. I ignore them, which of course we all are free to read, participate or not.

Sussexborn Mon 30-Mar-20 10:27:48

I read the first page or two and then the last two perhaps. Really up to the individual what they choose to read and that’s likely to be things of interest to them.

With the posters who just post the same old, same old I skip their pearls of wisdom as they become boring and tedious often attempting to disrupt proceedings because of their prejudices.

I hated maths at school. The teachers were sneering bullies who liked to humiliate girls who struggled with mathematical concepts so see no reason to be bullied in to doing maths now.

There are definite cliques in Gransnet and boasting slipped in to posts which I would imagine leave lonely and isolated people feeling quite low.

Doodledog Mon 30-Mar-20 10:23:48

No, you are NBU. It is my pet hate online. I see online communication as very similar to 'real life', and you (one) can't just butt into a conversation without bothering to listen to what others are saying.

It happens a lot across the Internet, though. Someone goes to the trouble of posting a considered response to a question, and three posts later someone else comes along and ignores it, so they may as well not have bothered. There is no conversation, just a series of statements going round in circles.

I don't understand why it is unreasonable to expect someone to read a thread before replying confused. It's basic manners, as far as I'm concerned.