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Adult children returning home

(103 Posts)
Lollin Tue 05-May-20 14:43:29

Is it possible to sort the reason for your partner's resentment? It may help you to think along the lines of, if your son had a physical ailment and needed your help what would you do.

Sussexborn Tue 05-May-20 13:39:20

Personally I would dump a partner who was so mean spirited and cruel. Unless your son has done something to deserve this ill will? Can you go and stay with your son to see him through this difficult time? I am pretty sure the rules allow you to do this.

LouTog Tue 05-May-20 12:51:58

My middle son lives away - during lockdown hes on his own completely. He only moved to this big city in Jan 20 - hes been furloughed from his job. But whilst he was at home with me he had poor mental health but he moved out to help himself.
Before moving he lived with me & my partner for 3 months. My partner made it clear he didn't like him & resented him being there.
Im so torn - I feel terrible for my son - he couldn't come back before lockdown because of my partner. Hes suffering now & I don't know how to help him. Ive tried to discuss with it with my partner or even ask for some support for me but he just doesn't see the need.
I know other people cant provide a solution but anyone any thoughts on how to help him & help me