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Watch what you want but..............

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Trisha57 Sun 24-May-20 21:28:56

OH just said to me "Watch what you want to watch on TV". We had just watched bloody Antiques Roadshow, which quite honestly bores me silly, but OH likes it. I flicked through a few things and said "Oh, I would like to watch Sewing Bee", to which he replied "Oh God!!!". Now he wonders why I have told him to watch whatever else he wants. He can't find anything that he likes, but still doesn't want to watch Sewing Bee. AIBU to tell him to not ask me what I want to watch if he would rather watch something that he doesn't really enjoy rather than me watch something I would enjoy? Sorry for the convoluted language, but I am fuming and he has now stormed off to bed!!!

B9exchange Sun 24-May-20 21:38:56

You have my sympathies, I have decided that there is nothing on TV worth an argument, when offered a choice (when there is no sport on!) I usually switch it off unless there is a good medical programme on. DH will even 'put one on for me', which illogically irritates as I would prefer to choose my own programmes! He means well.......

chloe1984 Sun 24-May-20 21:39:52

I feel your pain ‘we’ watch every quiz show with my husband calling out the answers and totally ignoring me for the duration of the programmes. I then get to watch the rerun of Downton Abbey and he takes great pleasure in making derogatory remarks all the way through it. One day I will implode AND I always get more right answers than him.

Jane10 Sun 24-May-20 21:56:14

Secret to a happy life - separate TVs!

kircubbin2000 Sun 24-May-20 21:57:11

I never understand these couples who have to do everything together. Get a tv in another room and watch what you want!

Coolgran65 Sun 24-May-20 21:57:25

At the minute it’s the Downing Street daily update, every day from about 4pm. That’s ok.
But he barges and rants at the journalists and their ‘stupid questions’... every day. I could write the script. Are they stupid... they’ve already asked that ...... etc etc

FarNorth Sun 24-May-20 22:04:26

"Shut it! You've watched your programme, now I'll watch mine." would be my response, Trisha57.
In a pleasant tone of voice, of course. smile

FarNorth Sun 24-May-20 22:05:43

Ps : YABU - to give in like that.

Lucca Sun 24-May-20 22:09:46

One of the huge advantages of living alone...watch whatever rubbish you like without anyone commenting!

MissAdventure Sun 24-May-20 22:11:47

I'll second that. smile

grannylyn65 Sun 24-May-20 22:16:03

We don’t all have spare rooms

Hetty58 Sun 24-May-20 22:38:54

Trisha57, I second kircubbin2000 in that you obviously need your own TV in another room - asap!

gulligranny Sun 24-May-20 22:47:03

My problem is slightly different, in that my DH will happily watch what I might choose (or he'll go off and commune with his computer) so no major fallings-out. However - before retirement he was a television lighting director and now cannot watch anything without commenting on how programmes are lit! Gets somewhat annoying, I can tell you.

Grannyjay Sun 24-May-20 23:32:06

Thank goodness it’s not only happening to me! My DH just wants to watch car sos, dangerous catch and anything relating to these themes. He of course has to make sure I don’t want to watch anything else by grunting about rubbish programmes. It’s a godsend having an extra tv.

Calendargirl Mon 25-May-20 07:07:26

I appreciate maybe it’s not possible for everyone, but if it is, just watch in separate rooms.
DH and I watch the national and local news together, then I disappear into spare bedroom and watch what I want, or read, or watch stuff on the I pad.
Why is it assumed tv has to be viewed cosily sitting together on the sofa, hands entwined?
If you’re Harry and Meghan, probably.
For the rest of us, probably not.

BoadiceaJones Mon 25-May-20 07:25:52

I've learned to enjoy war movies, rugby and cricket (in moderation). But he searches and downloads all sort of things that he knows I like, and we watch them together. He's become as fascinated as I am by paleoarchaeology and genetics, but does go to his workshop while I watch home improvement shows. Give and take.

Juliet27 Mon 25-May-20 07:43:16

What we both watched last night was Sacred Wonders ...amazing programme and we then watched another episode on player.

ginny Mon 25-May-20 07:46:36

War movies, car restorations, police action, golf, train programmes etc. etc.. They all bore me silly. Solution, record what I want to watch and take myself off to do some craft work or read in peace.

Coconut Mon 25-May-20 09:04:56

It is of course one of the standing jokes about men dominating the TV remote control 🤣 .... please don’t anyone start about the “women are perfect garbage” that we had to endure the other day. It’s as others say, it keeps the peace if you have 2 TV’s. You don’t need another separate room, just a bedroom will do, and it keeps harmony in the household, watching some things together, and some apart.

Phloembundle Mon 25-May-20 09:04:57

We may not all have spare rooms, but we have bedrooms. Before anyone says they could never have a TV in the bedroom, is the alternative of constant bickering preferable?

pat9 Mon 25-May-20 09:07:24

Just be thankful you have a husband to watch with but separate TVs sounds the answer if you can arrange that.

lemsip Mon 25-May-20 09:13:07

something to be said for living alone then! Put a tv in another room!

lemsip Mon 25-May-20 09:14:18

if no other room put a small one in the kitchen!!

travelsafar Mon 25-May-20 09:14:23

I guess i am lucky. My DH has a 'man cave' he goes there in the evenings to listen to rock music, play online gaming or trawl through ebay on his PC for things to buy.
Meanwhile i sit in the lounge, watching what ever i want doing my knitting. He comes down for the news at 11pm then proceeds to talk over everything that is being said telling me his version and opinion on the topic of the day. If we didnt seperate like this in the evenings i think i would have lost the plot by now as he would be doing the same over every program. He does it when we have the 6pm news on the radio whilst having our evening meal, he just cant stop himself!!!!!

Juniper1 Mon 25-May-20 09:18:09

You could have another in a bedroom/kitchen. Doesn’t have to be spare