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Trisha57 Sun 24-May-20 21:28:56

OH just said to me "Watch what you want to watch on TV". We had just watched bloody Antiques Roadshow, which quite honestly bores me silly, but OH likes it. I flicked through a few things and said "Oh, I would like to watch Sewing Bee", to which he replied "Oh God!!!". Now he wonders why I have told him to watch whatever else he wants. He can't find anything that he likes, but still doesn't want to watch Sewing Bee. AIBU to tell him to not ask me what I want to watch if he would rather watch something that he doesn't really enjoy rather than me watch something I would enjoy? Sorry for the convoluted language, but I am fuming and he has now stormed off to bed!!!

Puzzler61 Mon 25-May-20 10:34:53

DH and I have different tastes in tv viewing so we devised a system:
large TV in living room is called Screen 1 and small tv in a bedroom is Screen 2. We do go’s- and -turn’s each evening so we each get to see Progs we like on the ‘Big Screen’.
Saturday nights we always watch a film (recorded or a dvd) together that we’ve both chosen. This Saturday was “The Grand Budapest Hotel”, and we had toffee popcorn,
Almost as good as going out!

Zilla Mon 25-May-20 10:39:01

My husband is obsessed with programmes about old cars and ww2. Drives me potty. There are so many on Quest. ?

ginny Mon 25-May-20 10:39:56

Seems lots of men can’t bear to be without the remote in their control.
My DH speeds through the adverts on recorded programme s, which is fine but inevitably goes too far and misses a bit of the next part. Then spends time faffing about getting it to the right it to start watching again. Might just as well watched the adverts !

homefarm Mon 25-May-20 10:41:33

Definitely two TV's required

Neilspurgeon0 Mon 25-May-20 10:49:30

Absolutely Jane10 separate tellies is the only way to survive

Petalpop Mon 25-May-20 10:52:56

I like what I like and he likes what he likes. We are individuals. We have a TV in two comfy rooms. He enjoys what I consider boring in one room with the dog and I enjoy mine in the other with the cats. Sometimes we will enjoy a programme we both like in the same room. I would go brain dead if I had to suffer the likes of Abandoned Engineering for any length of time.

HAZBEEN Mon 25-May-20 10:59:13

I told this story a while ago on another thread but its still relevant. My OH would come in the room pick up the remote as he has to have control of it then proceed to change channels without asking if I was watching that programme. Then continue to click round the channels looking for something else. He too would fall asleep with the controller in his hand and whoa betide anybody trying to get to it. Well I got a second controller and hid it down the side of my chair. When he changed the channel I changed it back! He couldnt work out how that was happening! Then when he fell asleep I still could use the remote. I then started changing the channel when he was watching something, when he complained I said how do you like it! He now is much more aware and asks me first.

LJP1 Mon 25-May-20 11:09:27

Covid19 is getting to everyone and many 'adults' need to leave tantrums in childhood.

Can you both find something more worthwhile to do?

4allweknow Mon 25-May-20 11:11:12

I am often asked what I would prefer to watch from the screen menu. I offer my choice then find I am watching something completely different. I have given up trying to obtain an explanation for why that is. Often I get hold of the controller and I do the asking then select the programme I want to watch. Good for the goose..........

JanetWestYorks Mon 25-May-20 11:13:41

Sewing Bee is the only programme I really want to watch in real time (as normally record everything) and so glad it follows Repair Shop which is hubby’s favourite. I’m not really bothered about tv, would prefer to read or sew but my Wednesday evening is non negotiable ?

Daftbag1 Mon 25-May-20 11:17:10

Welcome to my world! Hubby classes anything I want to watch as rubbish, meanwhile it's Poirot, and Morse or war documentaries. If I insist he goes up to bed in a sulk which I ignore!!!

Trisha57 Mon 25-May-20 11:17:58

Thank you all. We do have small, older TVs in the bedroom and kitchen, but they only show "live" programmes and sometimes (in fact most of the time) we watch on "catch up" on the main TV. Perhaps I could ask for "catch up" on a new TV in the bedroom!!

WOODMOUSE49 Mon 25-May-20 11:23:57

I have a laptop (iPlayer) and wireless headphones + Netflix smile

DH has TV and his headphones + iPlayer (Humax) so he's happy now he knows how to uses it.

We watch our local news together and the odd film late at night, Last one was Educating Rita. DH had never seen it.

3141650raf Mon 25-May-20 11:46:07

Good morning all from the wonderful Fylde Coast and its glorious weather. Just recovering from a fall which made me decide to take up residence in our local wonderful hospital for a while. Now on the mend and enjoying our lovely blue sea. Good wishes to all.

Noreen3 Mon 25-May-20 11:46:30

I agree with you pat9,it would be nice to have a husband to watch tv with.I was lucky that my husband and myself didn't fall out over the tv,but I'm sure there must be an answer,have a tv in another room,have the means to record programmes while watching another channel,just try to enjoy your time together,it doesn't last forever.

inishowen Mon 25-May-20 11:49:02

My husband hates most of my programmes but happily watches TV after I've gone to bed. We had a big fall out on Friday. He decided to Hoover the car and was furious the bag was full! He only hoovers about once a year, and only his car. He said the bag was ALWAYS full. I was furious and told him to stick it up his *. We didn't speak for 24 hours. To be honest we needed a row. It didn't matter what caused it.

Joesoap Mon 25-May-20 11:49:21

Mine is the same, I have to admit I usually stream good programmes from the UK, we may look at some things together, Husband regularly watches any rubbish on the tv, then as he is about to go to bed he says "now you can watch what you want" very condescendingly.The programme I then watch at 11:30 our time (not UK) is SKY news to see what has happened in the UK,then off to bed.Thank goodness I watch my streamed channels on my desk computer.What is the matter with these arrogant men?

Katyj Mon 25-May-20 11:51:15

Same as Chardy tablet and headphones then at least you can stay in the same room. ?

rockgran Mon 25-May-20 11:52:16

Separate TVs! We watch a few quiz programmes together but agree to do our own thing otherwise. Can't be doing with too much togetherness - we need space!

Aepgirl Mon 25-May-20 11:53:21

Lucky you all who have a husband - irritating or not.

Mollyplop Mon 25-May-20 12:00:13

We haven't had tv since we met 21 years ago. Problem solved!

Theoddbird Mon 25-May-20 12:01:06

Oh for goodness sake. Have two tv's...end of. There are more important things in life than an argument over what to watch on tv....

grandtanteJE65 Mon 25-May-20 12:22:47

Well, my DH if he gets tired of a programme will just switch channels. He never asks if I want to see the one he switches from.

I put up with this, having decided that life is to short for quarrelling over TV, but sometimes I do wonder if I should just have my own set.

Hellsbelles Mon 25-May-20 12:35:56

' We ' watch an awful amount from the Quest channel ( doing up of old cars and bikes, and programmes of building lodges in Alaska ! )
Having said that he also watches Sewing Bee with me grin

Elegran Mon 25-May-20 12:41:59

All this advice to "get another TV" is a really first-world solution! Reminds me of advice from a rich friend when I mentioned (I wasn't even complaining, just mentioning!) that I usually transported the shopping home in the baby's pram (with two pre-schoolers walking alongside,) because DH needed the car for work. "Oh you should get a second car!" she said brightly, but she didn't suggest how we would pay for it, or where we would keep it.