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Nanderin Sun 14-Jun-20 11:45:43

My husband who is 72
Wants to go to golf and I am terrified the infection rate has gone up here and I don't want him to go. We have been know where.
Haven't even seen my grandchildren. I think he is being selfish.

ninathenana Sun 14-Jun-20 11:50:20

My friends husband resumed his beloved golf last week. I would think it's easy to maintain social distancing.
The 19th hole is still closed and booking is restricted so only a few on the course at a time

BibiSarah Sun 14-Jun-20 12:05:48

Nanderin,

I play Golf (badly) and its very easy to keep a good distance between people on the course. Honestly I wouldn't worry and whilst he's away playing golf I'd be seeing my grandchildren.

Marydoll Sun 14-Jun-20 13:02:05

I am shielding, but I encouraged my husband to start playing again golf last week.

We thought about it very carefully, but after looking at the measures put in place by the golf club, I told him to go and off he went to book before I even finished talking! wink
He and his partner went in separate cars, changed in the carpark and maintained social distancing the whole way round, as did all the other members.
Rounds were timetabled, golfers had to arrive 15 minutes before their round, the car park was supervised and the club house was closed.
He did not come in contact with anyone the whole way round, never saw another golfer, as times were spaced out. No less safe than going a walk or going to the supermarket.

As well as the physical exercise, he benefited mentally after being stuck in for thirteeen weeks supporting me.
His wellbeing has improved so much. He is a much happier person.

On coming home, he strips off at the backdoor, clothes straight into the washing machine and then has a shower.

The best part of all, I had time to myself!

Rosalyn69 Sun 14-Jun-20 13:08:58

My husband has been playing twice a week for the last two weeks. It’s all very well organised. Only twosomes and good social distancing.
He’s a happier chap for going. He’s not being selfish and perhaps some alone time would good for both of you.

Luckylegs Sun 14-Jun-20 13:09:19

I love it, my husband has been back just for nine holes twice a week for a couple of weeks now. He’s in a lovely mood when he comes home, several of them book tee times just behind each other then they have a spaced out coffee from the machine in the pro shop on the car park afterwards and chew the fat. My husband is the most outspoken advocate for keeping distance so I know it will be fine. They don’t touch anyone or get near. Let him have some fun!

Sunlover Sun 14-Jun-20 14:06:25

My husband back playing 3 times a week. Clubhouse is closed and golfers turn up play and leave. I’m pleased he’s able to play.

Teetime Sun 14-Jun-20 16:14:30

The English Golf Union have placed very strict restrictions and rules on golf courses. I would think you husband would benefit greatly from a game of golf. DH and I play not well buts its exercise and fresh air. Great to see people again even if we are bawli8ng at each other across a wide open fairway and laughing at each others hairdos. Let him go!!!

Lucca Sun 14-Jun-20 16:59:15

Cannot see a problem with golf. It’s in the open air and easy to maintain 2m distance.. Don’t you want your husband to be happy ?
I don’t see what that has to do with seeing the grandchildren You can’t visit indoors with the grandchildren anyway as you’re a couple.

Nanderin Sun 14-Jun-20 18:36:45

Hi I know what he is like with his friends there Will be at least 5 of them. They won't keep distance. Why she he be happy if I am not.

TerriBull Sun 14-Jun-20 18:58:40

My husband plays golf. His club has just re-opened, it's very regulated, I think it's one of the sports that can be played without too much risk. They keep well spaced out, no handshaking afterwards. Don't think the changing room is open so no showering, no drinks or socialising in the clubhouse, it's 9 or 18 holes and home again. Twice a week it does him good, I'm pleased he is able to resume a well loved hobby.

ginny Sun 14-Jun-20 19:11:33

Oh dear Nanderin, what a sad attitude.
Many of us are unable to take part in our favourite hobbies at the moment but I for one don’t begrudge my husband enjoying his ( golf).

Smileless2012 Sun 14-Jun-20 19:22:12

I was worried when Mr. S. had his first bowls game 2 weeks ago but didn't want to 'rain on his parade' so just asked him to be careful.

Dollymc2 Sun 14-Jun-20 19:41:16

Mr Mc has been playing golf twice a week. Up until it was allowed to officially play again, he would practice putting in our garden
He is a very pragmatic, upbeat kind of guy and didn't complain once about the situation we all find ourselves in
I was really happy for him to be able to get out of the house and do what he enjoys
I haven't seen my grandchildren either, other than from a distance, but I wouldn't dream of begrudging anyone a bit of happiness
Send him off to his golf with a cheery wave and read a good book, ring a friend, just relax 😊

Eloethan Sun 14-Jun-20 19:55:34

I think it's good exercise and beneficial for physical and mental health. I would imagine it's fairly easy to maintain social distancing.

It is natural to be cautious but I feel that if people cut themselves off completely from every activity outside the home it could lead to a constant state of anxiety, which must affect a person's overall health.

Greyduster Sun 14-Jun-20 21:00:54

A walk we do takes us around the edge of our local golf course and golf has resumed there recently. All the players we saw there a week or so ago were practicing good social distancing and frankly, it was a pleasure to see the course being used again. There’s nothing as eerie as a totally deserted golf course! Let him go and enjoy himself!

hellymart Sun 14-Jun-20 21:13:30

My husband has been playing golf again since the courses re-opened and he's a happier, healthier person for doing so. I enjoy having some time to myself and I certainly don't begrudge him some pleasure. When I'm allowed to take up my hobby again (swimming), I'm sure he'll be equally supportive. The golf club won't allow 5 of them to play together but perhaps you could say you'll feel happier with him going if it's just a 2 ball - or even if he just plays on his own?

Nanderin Mon 15-Jun-20 11:12:09

It's just all too stressful. I have suffered with OCD for years so it's a million times worse.

ginny Tue 16-Jun-20 11:03:19

Sorry to hear that but will it actually make you any happier if he doesn’t play golf. ?

timetogo2016 Tue 16-Jun-20 11:19:03

I would welcome the peace and quiet ,tell him to have a good time.

Marydoll Tue 16-Jun-20 12:30:33

Nanderin, I feel there is more to this than just your husband playing golf. You sound really unhappy, it can't be much fun for your husband either.

Are either of you shielding, if so then your husband definitely shouldn't be out and about?
If not, then you too are being selfish, as he would probably benefit physically and emotionally from the exercise and getting out in the fresh air, as long as he is careful.