AIBU. Noise from neighbors music.

I think as others have suggested - ask her round, have a drink in the garden, hopefully her son will be at home with his music!! In our last house, it was on a road en route to the local college, and traffic lights were installed. We had cars with the thump, thump thump all the time, more so when they were stuck at the traffic lights! I was tempted to contact the college to ask if they could play 'nice' music!

i personally would have gone with the play loud music back at them, but the idea of asking them into your garden to hear it from your side might just work.
Thing is, with it being so quiet, you can almost hear a pin drop at times! I was even able to hear the racket from people partying 7 miles away last night!
My relatively new neighbours have a huge garden (ok, so a large bit is on a slope) but they seem intent on moving into mine - their washing line is only about 2 metres from the adjoining fence, They have put lights in the garden, so it looks like a runway, and their security light is on and off all night, not to mention that all 4 of them smoke and seem to delight on sitting just the other side of our joint wall, so the smoke comes into my bedroom - this can be at any time of the day or night!

Neighour moved

My elderly late Mam was guilty of loud radio, I used to visit and immediately tour it down, she was blissfully unaware she would have it on very loud and go and garden. The neighbour then started putting music on loud, she moved in the end, Mam never understood why but I do. It’s not just the young who have loud music

I really think this sort of thing needs to be taken far more seriously. It can drive people mad. Everyone has a right to enjoy their home and garden without being subjected to excessive noise from neighbours. A few nights ago I was in bed trying to get to sleep with bedroom windows open due to the heat and someone was hammering in their garden at 11pm!! I find it totally unacceptable.

There is no need for people to play their music so loudly that it disturbs their neighbours. I used to calm my children down when they were getting too loud in the garden and just generally have consideration for other people. It’s one of my pet hates as I’ve been in a situation where a buy to letter bought the house next door to where I was living and some of the tenants were a nightmare. I even had to go out or sleep at a friend’s house on several occasions. It’s no joke and the authorities should take it far more seriously.

Can you suggest that they buy their son a good pair of wireless headphones ?

If you decide to go for ear defenders - these are good, help me to garden in perfect peace in my front garden on a VERY busy road. www.amazon.co.uk/Mpow-Defenders-Protection-Construction-included-Black/dp/B01KBZDB4K/ref=asc_df_B01KBZDB4K/?hvlocphy=9045117&linkCode=df0&hvptwo&psc=1&hvnetw=g&hvadid=309932293363&hvpone&hvlocint&hvpos&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl&hvqmt&tag=gransnetforum-21&hvtargid=pla-562738500920&hvrand=5025482624055994945

Mmm moving house you would have you would have to declare this. You never know when you may want to move so PLEASE think and don’t fall out.

@ElaineI - thinking about the 'Care Home' situation. When I worked in one (late 1980s) they were all little old ladies and gentlemen who had gone through WW1 and WW2 and some of them actually remembered life BEFORE WW1. The songs that they enjoyed were 'Nellie Dean', 'Pack Up Your Troubles', 'It's a Long Way to Tipperary' etc

These days, the Care Home Generation includes people born just before, and since, WW2 - so their sing-a-longs are more likely to be Frank Sinatra, Perry Como, Al Martino and possibly some Rock 'n' Roll like Bill Haley, Elvis or Cliff Richard.

MY Generation will probably be wanting to 'chill out' to 'Let's Go To San Francisco', 'Whiter Shade of Pale' and 'Jennifer Juniper'.

Give it another 20 years or so, and we're going to be having the 'Punk Generation' being looked after - can you just imagine them all belting out the Sex Pistols version of 'God Save The Queen' - while trying to 'crowd-surf' with their Zimmer Frames .

Some people can just be very selfish. I used to live in a ground floor flat (1 year) and there was hardly any sound insulation so you could hear a lot of noise from the flat above and the flat above that (child jumping on floor or running around continously, and who lived above me worked shifts so some nights her have his friends round till 2am making a noise) to top it off there was a guy who lived in the same block but a floor up from my next door neighbour who was on the ground floor who had a drink and drug problem and he would play his music very loud at all hours of the day and night with his windows open so you could hear that deep booming sound from the base....I complained to him and the council and they sent letters then after a week he would start playing the music again. It caused me anxiety , trouble sleeping and ended in a panic attack. I moved last year to a lovely housing association first floor flat (top floor) with lovely neighbours. Yes, you hear a bit of noise but no loud booming music. It took about 5 months for my anxiety to go. Noisy neighbours can really affect you badly. If you live in social housing you can ask for an exchange of transfer if it's upsetting you so badly or go to your local council and they will ask you to download their noise app which records the music or noise as it happens and they may take action.

Its not just loud music that's annoying. We have neighbours who put their dog in the back garden and it barks and yaps all day long many times until 10.00m.

I too am having problems with new neighbours. They bought the house for the view but decided to completely change the inside. For the last three months they have banging and drilling, often until ten o’clock at night. They then played music outside so that they could hear it as they worked. Our bungalows are quite close together so I could hear the noise inside too. Before they arrived, my garden was a very quiet place where I could go for a break after caring for my terminally ill husband, who died this month. I told them I understood that they wanted to get the house finished but didn’t think it fair that I had to listen to their music too. I said I would normally go out for a coffee but lockdown meant I was stuck at home.
The music did stop only to be replaced by a wind chime across from my back door. (They said it is like a wind tunnel there). Their next idea was to put their three dogs in a kennel in the same area. They barked non-stop when they were out.
The neighbours on the other side have a list of complaints too.
I’m thinking of moving as I can no longer enjoy the peace and quiet of my home and garden.

Just to say you are not alone and we suffer the same. It’s funny how they respond for a day after you speak to them but they do it again the next day! Hopefully the thunderstorms and forecast cooler weather will drive them all indoors.?

EllanVannin, as a Liverpool supporter all my life, now exiled in the N.East, I'm thrilled!

On topic, I get up early to walk my dogs before the heat sets in and at 6.00 am this morning, I could hear very loud music from 3 houses and somebody hammering away doing d.i.y .
I do think the ignorance of so many is shocking!

Plenty of loud bangs and fireworks still going off for Liverpool's football champions victory since 1990, both here where I am and over the water-----but who cares ?

I'm pleased for the people of Liverpool and its supporters.

I do sympathise but this is a funny story. Our back garden backs onto a care home/convent with large grounds. You can sometimes hear Scottish music/singers in the summer if the doors are open but not intrusively. A couple of weeks ago DGS2 aged 2 was playing in the garden and suddenly there was really loud rap music with swear words reverberating round our whole street never mind our garden. "What that noise Granny" says DGS2. It went on for over half an hour. Then last week DH who didn't believe me, was treated to very loud music fortunately things like ABBA and again today DGS2 and I had very loud music - not things I recognised but not rap with sweary words as he played in the paddling pool. DH has found out somewhere (he is google addicted) that the care home has had a sound system installed and clearly the staff or entertainment team are using it to the full - don't know if the residents approve of the choices as many have dementia but it is very funny having this noise from a care home and at least you can hear the words not the bass. DGS2 likes it - he dances in the local co-op aisles as they have soft music "DGS2 dancing Granny!"
I do think it must be difficult Jojo60 though. My DM has the same problem but it's when her neighbour's children are playing (parent's have bass loud) and just now there are more children playing in their gardens as they can't even go to the park. I feel adults should be more considerate.

Awful story Luckynan.

We are in the same situation with a family who live at the back of us. Couple both in their forties ( and both teachers) have their radio blasting out all day. We are able to move to the side of our garden but our other 2 neighbours, both widowed and in their eighties are very upset by it. As they say, they can’t even sit in their gardens in peace. I have offered to speak to these people but they are worried incase they cause trouble.
Like a previous poster my blood is boiling especially thinking of these 2 older people sitting in their homes when they could be enjoying the garden. Apparently another neighbour, who has since moved , did complain to the council and got nowhere. These neighbours have also got children who are still out screaming at 11pm. Needless to say they have also flouted the lockdown rules but have been out clapping every week.
Sorry for the rant just feel upset .

Thats awful nonogran. A peaceful little comnunity spoilt by one person.

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I've just realised you said they are otherwise nice so yes, I agree with not going down the environmental road. Speaking to the father/husband sounds a good idea. Good luck.

I sympathise. Our neighbours have a dog which never stops yapping. It spoils our enjoyment of sitting out in the sun.

Thank you everyone for your support. We did try playing 1960's rock n roll very loudly one day (DH's choice) and they did turn theirs down, but I couldn't stand that every day either! I will go round to speak to them again though, this time when the father is home as he seems to be the most sensible one in the family.

Retaliation with Wagner’s Ride of the Valkyrie at full volume?

My D and SIL had the same problem. They live in a detached house and you could hear and even feel the bass from next door.

My SIL politely mentioned the bass to them and things did improve. They weren't aware that it could be heard so far away.