thanks so much all, I don't think they are meeting in the garden because his mum is too poorly for that at the moment. I will ask him to shower & wash his clothes when he gets in & I'll sleep in the spare room for 2 weeks. When I speak to him about it he just says 'it'll be ok' and its just bluster, he can't know that. Hooray I've just had a text from him and he's going to ask his 'children' not to come! I'm delighted, I do love his family but I don't like being put at risk. Thanks so much for 'talking' it over with me, you were a great help 
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