My sympathies to you - not easy at any time but made far more difficult now. I think you are well within your rights to say you had really hoped it would be girls only this time - especially as you, now, don't have a partner to accompany you.
Cross partyAsylum seekers in UK should have right to work after six months!
CUTTING OFF A ROSE BRANCH IN NEXT DOOR'S GARDEN
Do you try to keep childcare (fairly) equal between your grandchildren?