Am I being over sensitive?

Yep! that's my sense of humour, I would probably have said, "OK, my case is in the car!!"
Go and see your daughter and GS when invited - Just ignore SiL's comments.

It could be he's still a bit nervy& wary about people coming to visit in the current situation, and especially with touching & holding the baby, is he like that with his own family where the childs concerned? (Its one thing them visiting, but another if visitors 'pass the baby around' maybe?) I see they waited a while for the baby, so maybe hes scared of anything happening especially with covid19 still around? Could be all that making him jumpy of visits ? only reply if he carries on in same vein.

I wouldn't bring it up with your DD why let him cause issues between you he may be a little jealous if you have a close relationship with DD however if his snipers carry on I would give him the same back "yes can you get our bags from the car"

Insensitive people brush off any offence by saying "it was a joke." What they don't realise is that some "jokes" are not funny.

It is strange times and people are under stress. Your daughter needs you and you should go

I would say if she's inviting you when he's out, she's already aware of his disposition towards you and he probably thought you'd be gone by 3:15. In-law problems

I would be inclined to take them out for lunch etc. and leave him at home.

Working From Home Bluebelle, its a term been used a lot during lockdown

Don’t take offence and don’t make anything of it - if you make a comment now it will become an issue - get over there as much as you can and only if you receive other remarks that you think are not jokey bring it up with your daughter just to check that you are welcome by both her and your sil - you have a big chance to forge a relationship with your new grandson here so don’t blow it.

I'd have been tempted to reply 'My bags are being unpacked as we speak' but then I do have a very sarcastic form of humout (inherited from my father). I think it was just an off the cuff remark that didn't come across as it was meant to. If your daughter has asked you to visit then go, enjoy your time together and see whether your sil makes any other 'comments'. If it repeats then perhaps you could try to arrange to meet up outside the home? Could your daughter travel to you instead?

I would go and have a line prepared should SIL comment again. He may have meant it as a joke as it came out wrong. I have done that myself, put my mouth in gear before my brain had engaged! Told my DIL that her Mother was a snob - she is - but it came out all wrong. So go and have a lovely time.

I wouldn't take it to heart , he probably thought he was being funny . If you are that upset by it perhaps you should speak to your daughter .

Totally agree with @Nannarose Whatever the reason for his comment, just ignore it and be guided by your daughter. I've never seen a couple with a new baby who weren't under enormous stress - don't add to it (no matter how justified).

Our SIL is exactly the same. We have always waited for an invitation and they live a fair distance away. It has always been at a time when he has been out and he makes sure he's working late that day so we don't even see him. I can see that our daughter is becoming more like him and rings us once a week, usually on a Sunday evening at about 10.30 pm when her SIL has gone to bed. If he is still up then we can hear him making quips in the background. We try our best but it is not easy. Lockdown has eased quite considerably but she is not rushing to see us - far too busy! Our other two daughters who live in the same city are disgusted with her. One will try to keep the peace, the older daughter will tell her exactly what she thinks but it does not make for an easy relationship.

I too would file it for now. If it happens again, be ready to calmly ask him if he is trying to make you feel uncomfortable. If he says it’s a joke, just state the truth, that it’s making you feel unwelcome.

It depends on how your relationship was before lockdown, I will regularly say 'Lock up the silver' 'Oh my God not you again' etc when my SIL comes round and he'll say similar things when I go to their house. It really is all about the previous relationship.

It’s rude. It’s an abuse of power. He’s letting you know it is his house his wife . Horrid.
Don’t banter back. For the sake of your daughter, who was probably mortified, ignore it. I have a SIL who has to give sleights to remind me where the power is. It means I regularly meet my daughter outside the home all the time and am very wary of visiting. His parents visit formally every week, my daughter of course isn’t rude to them.. There is no way my husband would have been so rude to my mother. No matter what they think to make those thoughts public is out of order and disrespectful. He might have got into trouble with your daughter after and will not say anything as rude again. Though his body language will still be apparent I expect. Being a mother and a husband are such different roles only a weak man would be threatened by it. If it happens again an icy glare might remind him of his manners.

I wouldn’t let one little remark spoil what you enjoyed in seeing your daughter and baby grandson , take it with a pinch of salt , no doubt your SIL was joking , I’d have said something back like ‘ thanks for invite , my suitcase is in the car ‘ ..lol...?
Your daughter obviously wants you to make another visit, which is lovely ,so go and enjoy your times together as they are precious and say nothing about hubby’s remark .

Let it go for now, and do go and visit your daughter.

If your SIL makes more remarks of this kind, don't answer them, but when you are alone with your daughter say lightly that sometimes you are in doubt whether her husband is joking, as his sense of humour is so different from yours. Make it clear that you aren't criticising him, but asking for her help in understanding his special brand of humour.

I think you are making something out of nothing. Be careful or you could spoil the relationship for nothing. If he had been serious I don't think your daughter would have invited you back so quickly. I think we are all a lot more sensitive after lockdown.

Ignore the prick

I hate the walking on egg shells with family .the grandparents should be respected . SIL can be rude , give him as good as he gives! Put him in his place it’s not as if you visit a lot . Best all done with humour , I have 3 daughters , I am careful , I have a mantra for my grandchildren also , (I have one who will be walked on), if you expect respect you will get it !
My SIL ‘s invite me over for Dinner all time , I spoil them all it’s give & take .

So and so

Don’t let that rude man spoil this time with you and your daughter. Rise above it and make the most of every moment you can. None of us know how this will all pan out and the chances of another bigger wave and lockdown is highly likely. You will regret not going this weekend. Don’t let the unpleasant do and so win.

Isabel46 your son in law is plain rude.

I play golf and there are a lot of joke names for various shots The son-in-law shot is.....not what you would choose but you’ll have to make the best of it! I always keep this at the back of my mind ?