My DH and I are retired and before lockdown, looked after 2 year old GDs twice weekly at least whilst our DD and SIL working. They live 10 minutes away.
Since mid March, have seen very little of them. DD suffers from anxiety and worries about her dad (my DH) as he is diet controlled diabetic, takes BP tablets and statins. We’re both under 70. We’ve had 4 or 5 visits at the end of our short driveway - distancing of course- and last week we sat in DDs garden - first time since 23/3. This was at my suggestion - DD doesn’t issue us any invitations!
My issue is - REALLY missing GDs! Finding it hard to keep feelings inside. Would like to visit them at least weekly or for them to come to us, especially when weather good and can sit outside. I feel as if DD is calling all the shots and although we wouldn’t call on them uninvited, unless we had to, would like more contact. I don’t like FaceTime - although we have done this. Find it “awkward” somehow.
When I mentioned to SIL last week that we don’t know what will happen in September when school term starts - DD is a teacher - he said not to worry about it if we can’t babysit because of COVID lockdown. Truth of it is, although we love being able to help them out with childcare, we adore GDs and love spending time with them. Their language is developing now and we feel like we’re missing out.
We have a great rapport with them and when we have seen them, the clearly remember us, but we have to keep distance.
My DH is very accepting of the situation, but it’s starting to affect my mental health not seeing the GDs.
I do have lots of creative hobbies and we enjoying walking, but life seems a bit meaningless at the moment without spending time with GDs - they’re a huge part of our lives.
AIBU? Can I suggest we see GDs once a week - I know that they are spending time with friends, cousins and other grandparent (widowed lady), which I must say I find slightly hurtful as we’re left out in the cold, it seems. Or are we just not useful any more, now that we can’t babysit?
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