AIBU - CV19 is over according to my OH

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Sorry, I’ve only had time to read the first page so far, someone might have already said this.
It seems to be a characteristic of men as the get older. Well British men anyway. They seem to think they are invincible. We have been without telephone and internet since late Saturday night but engineer arrived this morning, thank goodness. DH suddenly returned to the bed room to put a mask on. Of course the younger, male,Portuguese engineer was already wearing his.

this is so sad ,but my question is ,when ,and if he gets the virus through his own stupidity ? ,will he ask you to care for him ? ,,has he thought this through properly ,i think not ,,also who prepares their food ? not you i hope

You are not being pedantic. I'm in your situation too immune wise. There is no way my husband would risk my health by doing what yours is. Lay it on line to.him

This is nowhere near over! Where I live, we have been very lucky to have had very few cases/deaths compared to many other places. We had 3 straight weeks of no infections at all. Fantastic! Then, the government eased up on restrictions ... stupid people became complacent, and now, guess what? ... We're in the midst of our THIRD wave, which seems to be spreading faster than before!

Restrictions have again been put in place, which they will review, and if the infection rate shows no signs of slowing, they may impose a lockdown. Frankly, I hope they do! Too many stupid people around who can't be trusted, and who put the rest of us at risk!

Seeing what is going on 'back home' in the UK, and other places with outrageously high rates of infection/deaths, I can't believe that people can be so stupid and irresponsible.

If this 3rd wave has happened here, even though the majority of people have followed the rules, and not waited to be told what to do by the government, God help you lot over there! I worry for my family in the UK.

Flakesdayout did update us to say that he's not going to France now. Still, working on the bike in the garage is taking a risk for something that's really not necessary at this time.

It demonstrates just how much (or little) love and respect is shown for another when their wish to stay safe is ignored. I'd be most upset about it. (Does he love that bike more than you?)

I keep hearing the same old excuses:

'Meet up now before the second wave' (of course, there will certainly be one, if you do).

'We have to go shopping' (no, you can get everything delivered, I do).

'Socialise to protect your mental health' (really? - then lie awake at night wondering if you've caught it).

(and, worst of all)

'I socialise, go shopping - and look after an elderly relative'
(you call that 'looking after'?)

Lock your doors so him and his friend cant get in the house.motor rally .well hes a stupid man.its not over people are still dying.

Can you not explain to him that the only reason the lockdowns are easing is because OVERALL cases are lessening in certain areas, and that the NHS now (at the moment, unless a 2nd wave arises) has the capacity to COPE with all the NEW cases that WILL arise - COVID 19 is NOT over - it's just that now the hospitals can cope those of us who go out and get it are more likely to be seen in hospital - and quite frankly I'd (YOU'D) rather not be one of those cases!
I'm staying put for a long while yet.

Here in Arizona the Governor opened the state up too soon. Our ICQs are full. Younger people are dying. They went to bars and restaurants because our Governor listened to the Orange Idiot in Whitehouse and said it was ok to come out ane play.

I had a telephone appointment recently with the chest specialist I normally see at the hospital. I have been shielding, and he told me to continue to take all possible precautions as the virus has NOT gone away.

Unfortunately there is no cure for stupidity!,,,

Flakesdayout
Totally agree with everything you have said to your OH
keep strong, this virus is no joke
xxx

Really cannot understand the people who think all danger of infection is over. My DH usually has a drink a few times a week with three friends. So far he's told them he's not ready to join them yet but one of them seems to be taking it as a bit of an insult. This morning I heard him actually apologising on the phone for not wanting to come!

i wish it was so easy to go out and rent a flat!! I would have gone ages ago !!

Tell him he should prepare to move in with the motorbike. Forgive the joke - however, you could joke with him like this to make him see that his idea is pretty much a joke too but a very bad one. Stand your ground with regard to quarantine when the friend has left if it goes ahead.

You are totally in the right. We would all like to think this is over, but sadly it's not! I think he's being an idiot, and it's the idiots that tend to keep us in it's clutch!!
Like the idea about renting a flat, preferably with him in it, you stay put!! Good luck.

Reddevil3

Here in France, it is law from today to wear a mask in enclosed places ie shops , restaurants. It has been law to wear them on public transport for a couple of months.
If you don’t obey, you risk a fine of 135€.
I ask myself why there aren’t fines for people who don’t follow the rules in the U.K.

Police numbers have been decimated over many years to save tax payers money (as per Conservative election promises) and since 2010 162 of the 323 magistrates courts then in England and Wales have closed, with many being sold off. This has resulted in a backlog of 480,000 cases (very little of this has anything to do with lock down) so in real terms there is no one available to impose a fine and nowhere to enforce the penalty. (Crown Courts are in an even worse state, and now the government is trying to use this as an excuse to remove trial by jury as a right)

You are no being unreasonable at all. I have similar struggles with OH - he has to be constantly reminded to wash hands, use a facemask, gloves, etc. It is like living with a toddler...he told me that he was going to take public transport from Oxford to Suffolk to pick up a car his son is buying (as his son is "too busy" at the moment to do it himself!!). I said you are going on public transport via London??!! He said I can go via Birmingham as if that was any better. I then asked him was he staying with his son for 2 weeks after he delivered the car to him as he could not come directly home. His face was a picture......the penny dropped I was serious & he was on the phone to tell his son he could not help him. Honestly! And I also blame his son for not thinking. I find it exhausting enough trying to cope with the situation at the moment without the extra strain of dealing with OH who is in denial.........

Flake I reckon your husband's friend should stay in the campervan when he visits next week. Your husband can take meals out to him and put the dirty plates straight into the dishwasher. He should use the washing and loo facilities in the van, and your husband should go out there to sit with him and chat, and should clean the van thoroughly when his friend has left, and put his bedding and towels into the washing machine. The van is a self-contained unit - there is no need for him to enter the house.

If he wants a friend to visit, he can take responsibility for making sure that you are not exposed to any chance of infection, and if he is not prepared to do that, he can tell his friend that he values your health too much to risk it.

No you are not being unreasonable and he is being very naive if he thinks it is all over...it will never be over as even with a vaccine it will still be about.
Why cant they do the motorbike outside on the driveway? If it has to be in the garage then ensure the main garage door is open for good ventilation.
If he insists on going to France let him but tell him he will need to isolate for at least 7 days to ensure he doesn't have it

Very sadly Covid is not over and is unlikely to be for some considerable time yet. I wish you the very best of luck; if you are happier wearing a mask in your home do so. Wash your handed thoroughly and frequently and clean surfaces etc.
When out and about if someone near me doesn’t know what 2metres looks like I stand back, hold my arm out to ‘block’ them and say “please stand back - you don’t know what I have got”. It usually works!

It's certainly not over in Blackburn as we have just got to the top position of places with the highest amount of cases, and that's in spite of the special measures put in place last Wednesday - trouble is too many people aren't keeping to the measures. We may have to go into lockdown again now. Never thought we would overtake Leicester in the amount of cases. So it's not over as some people seem to think it is.

Your husband is being very selfish, unreasonable and, dare I say it, ignorant.
He is one of the band that thinks because shops, pubs, etc are open it means that the danger is over. It’s NOT, and will continue to spread if people don’t behave responsibly.

Well it seems that according to the Tesco in my local area, Covid is gone!! No longer any barriers to queue for getting in; nobody on the door letting one out one in; no baskets in the lobby to wipe with provided sanitizer; no distance markings on floor; no one-way arrows on floor (not that anybody seemed to take notice of that); no queue for check out to let customers up to tills one at a time. So all back to normal as far as local Tesco is concerned!