I have a tricky friend.

I do take your point about the MRI scan but I have been very supportive.
She did have 2 days to say she wasn’t going to turn up, before she was knackered! We usually make our arrangements in this way. Whoever makes the suggestion books the court. The court was booked. She must have booked it.
I’ve got it out of my system now. It’s just par for the course.
It’s a beautiful morning, we are having family round for lunch, onwards and upwards.
Thanks for letting me vent.

Is there another thread somewhere where someone has said that her friend didn't bother to ask how her MRI scan went? All her friend was interested in was a ruddy game of tennis?

She didn't bother to reply to confirm that 3pm on Saturday would be fine, so I would have phoned her to make sure that she was coming.

However, her flippant reply was very rude.

Perhaps she was upset that you hadn’t asked how her MRI had gone or how her health was.

Texts & WhatsApp have their uses. Cheap or free. But every now and again a phone call is better I think. Less misunderstandings that way.
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I used to have a 'friend' like that OP who'd not turn up if a better offer came her way. Needless to say she is no longer a friend.

I'd reply with 'Thanks for letting me know. I wasted an hour waiting for you. Ask John next time.'

I think you need some time away from her to clear your head from irritation. The fact you posted it here shows that it got under your skin. It does read that neither of you confirmed definitely but maybe that's your phone style to each other. Her saying she was 'knackered' is an attempt at an apology that maybe she feels she shouldn't be making? If she hadn't turned up, didn't you contact her right away to ask if she was delayed?

MissAdventure

Because that is how some people text.
As I said, she would have pointed out that it wasn't confirmed if that was the case.

I agree.

If it were me, I'd wait for her to suggest meeting, then stand her up. She's not much of a friend.

Because that is how some people text.
As I said, she would have pointed out that it wasn't confirmed if that was the case.

She didn't say that it was OK. No confirmation. No need to be annoyed. Just a misunderstanding.

MissAdventure

I think she would have said "I didn't realise the tennis was on" if that was the case.
Why would she say she was too knackered?

Why would she go to the court without a confirmation?

Just read the text as I would read it and she says about 3 on Saturday would be good. As in is that OK with you ? But you don't answer her to make the arrangement definite. Its left open ended. I would have text her back saying yep 3 on Saturday is great see you then. That way you could have real go at her for not turning up. I just feel its a very loose arrangement and not one that is definite. However your friend does appear quite disrespectful in the way she responds by saying she was too tired. No real apology in fact she is making it sound like she is the one put out. There fore I would dump her as a friend because obviously she only cares about herself.

B9exchange

I feel very uncomfortable reading a private text sent specifically to someone else. But having read it, the 'MRI negative' at the end could have had huge implications.

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I think she would have said "I didn't realise the tennis was on" if that was the case.
Why would she say she was too knackered?

I feel very uncomfortable reading a private text sent specifically to someone else. But having read it, the 'MRI negative' at the end could have had huge implications.

She asked you to play tennis, you said yes but then she never comfirmed- You went anyway- Then turned around and asked where she was, as though it was her fault you showed up, even though she didn't confirm-

Sounds to me like "both" of you are playing more than tennis-

The "go viral" was said in jest, however I'd still be nervous about putting so much information about someone on a public forum (text + back story).

biba70

sorry, so the other way round- she herself never confirmed- why didn't you ask her if that was a firm yes?

She did Not need to. Friend obviously agreed as she later said “sorry too knackered”. Rather than “oh I didn’t realise we had agreed a time”.
PamelaJ I’d ignore her for a good while !

Fevertree, there are no identifying features on the conversation.
Why would something so insignificant to the world in general go viral?

biba, as she instigated the conversation I presumed that was fine.
I think that , in her place, I would have responded if it hadn’t been convenient wouldn’t you?
This has happened before and we have both turned up.
As I said - if she had said she had forgotten I would have understood. Was she too tired to let me know she wouldn’t be there? It’s not that tiring to pick up a phone.

Nobody needs a flaky friend. Nothing more irritating than making arrangements and then fretting as to whether they'll show up or not or bail beforehand. People like that are hard work and rarely worth it.

Crikey, Pamela these forums are public and you've copied a personal text on here! I'd be worried it "goes viral".