I have a tricky friend.

sorry, so the other way round- she herself never confirmed- why didn't you ask her if that was a firm yes?

We often play on a Saturday and so I presumed that, as she had suggested it in the first place, the fact that she didn’t respond to the message meant that 3 was fine.
I was wrong.
I think I will leave the ball in her court?? and see what happens. Sometimes doing nothing is best.??‍♀️

She didn’t confirm the 3pm arrangement when you suggested it. You probably assumed it was a fixed arrangement while she assumed you would contact her to confirm. Crossed wires?

Biba and there was no confirmation at all on your part- no reply to her proposal of 3 pm
It was Pamela's proposal. not her friend's.

Pamela I would reply 'too knackered to let me know, obviously' followed by an angry emoticon.
Unless you get a profuse apology, not a friend worth keeping, imho.

I wouldn’t have gone to the tennis unless she had replied to confirm your 3 o’clock idea. It seems weird she didn’t reply to that when she suggested it in the first place!

Biba, I was the one who suggested 3pm.

The OP is in blue, the friend texted that she didn’t turn up because she was ‘too knackered’.
Not much of a friend is she? Cast her off.

I can see she didn’t confirm the arrangement, BUT she didn’t give that as the reason for her no show only that she was too tired! I wouldn’t bother texting her again or replying to any invites she sends, if she asks why just say you felt it was rude of her to not only blow you out but also to not even apologise!!

I read the texts twice- and there was no confirmation at all on your part- no reply to her proposal of 3 pm- Why didn't you put a 'thumbs up' at least, or just a quick 'great, see you then' or similar.

I think that's the trouble with texts - it's as if it's not a real arrangement.
I'm not excusing your friend, by the way.

That was appalling Pamela. I would let it cool off for a while, or write in the vein suggested by Elegran. I’d have been really peed off.

For me and my friends, if I'd had your message suggesting 3pm, I would have replied with a thumbs up or confirmation.

She is so rude. As she seems to take more than she gives, with your friendship, I would probably just drop her, unless you really don't want to. At the very least I would ignore future suggestions for meeting, for some time.

I think I agree with all of you.
I have always thought that she is on the autistic spectrum so have given her sometimes odd ways a bit of slack but this , I think, is the straw that has broken my back.

Nah, I'd kick that into the long grass. She presumably got a better offer for this afternoon and blew you to one side. Being used as a fall back isn't a premise for friendship; it's disrespectful and annoying and you don't need a "friend" who would do something like this to you.

Ask her "What WERE you doing at 2 pm that was so thrilling and exhausting that you were too tired even to tell me you were too knackered to meet me for the game of tennis you suggested? And talking of ??John?? how is he, anyway? Still keeping fit? Does he play tennis too?"

Or something similar.

I think I would say Why didn't you let me know you would not be coming? I had other things I could have done.

And see what the answer is.

Actually I would really like to see what she says. Personally I think this is a friend you can do without!

Me neither.

Oh dear I wouldn’t be looking for an amusing comment I would not even answer it and she would nt be getting another invitation from me