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AIBU find my DH really irritating when he cooks?

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flopen Sun 09-Aug-20 15:03:52

...when he's a rubbish cook, but thinks he's wonderful, and gets sulky when I don't fall over myself appreciating what he cooks?
For a start, he NEVER bothers with green vegetables, unless prompted, then presents them as some great favour. Or, just before the meal is ready, asks me to do them because he's too busy being masterchef.
Today, he has misread a newspaper recipe, and thought that 2 recipes were meant to accompany each other. He got me to make one (pretty faffy) and it didn't, and wasn't meant, to go with the one he made.

V3ra Sun 09-Aug-20 15:21:26

While he was at home on furlough my husband took on the role of household chef.
He does tend to undercook things though: scrambled eggs that are barely lukewarm for instance and potatoes that you struggle to get a fork into.
While I appreciated his offer and the extra time it gave me not to have to prepare meals myself, I was secretly relieved when he was called back to work ?

annep1 Sun 09-Aug-20 15:48:59

I can't complain. My husband brings my dinner on a tray to the living room. Mind you I know it's really so that he can listen to the radio in peace in the kitchen.
Why don't you suggest taking turns flopen and tell him which parts he has to take care of.?

ninathenana Sun 09-Aug-20 16:08:04

DH is a fairly good cook. He doesn't use recipes though. He just cooks the basics like full English, Sunday roast, curry etc. He clears the kitchen after too.

Jaxjacky Sun 09-Aug-20 16:13:17

Mine can do a fry up, sausages mash and beans...that’s it. However, he washes up every night, does the ironing (mostly his) and will clean a bathroom/Hoover if needed. So that’s fine.

Judy54 Sun 09-Aug-20 16:26:46

We both cook and I am lucky that my Partner is a great cook he can do anything from a full roast to a delicious curry. However he does use every utensil going and leaves the kitchen in quite a mess. It is a small price to pay for the lovely dishes he produces.

sodapop Sun 09-Aug-20 16:31:23

Same here Judy54 my husband was a chef at one time and thinks he still has a brigade to take care of things. I don't cook so do the clearing up etc, its worth it.

Bellanonna Sun 09-Aug-20 16:36:06

Lucky those who have a DH who cooks. Mine does iron though?

Cabbie21 Sun 09-Aug-20 16:38:38

My husband rarely cooks. He could do a roast and all the trimmings but I am not sure he could co-ordinate all the timings. We cannot be in the kitchen together. It is only small and he just gets in the way. He prepares the veg for the evening meal and I do the cooking and clearing up. He will fill the dishwasher but forgets to put it on and leaves anything for handwashing in the sink. He never wipes surfaces down so if I leave it to him I know I will need to finish off afterwards.

Maggiemaybe Sun 09-Aug-20 16:47:32


Lucky those who have a DH who cooks. Mine does iron though?

I’m even luckier, Bellanonna, mine does both!

To be fair I’ve never seen the point of ironing and gave it up once there were no school uniforms to do. He’s got higher standards, so the ironing’s all his stuff. smile

He only ever cooked the Sunday full English when we both worked, but took on all the day to day cooking when he retired. He enjoys it, I always found it a chore. Win win!

Maggiemaybe Sun 09-Aug-20 16:50:12

I’m not sure I’d be as happy if he was a rubbish cook though, OP. He’s better than I was. smile

Bellanonna Sun 09-Aug-20 17:40:29

Maggiemaybe, I’m jealous! ?