As a Christian myself, I know firsthand how appallingly the church can behave with its hypocrisy, arrogance and judgmentalism . This is why we stopped going eight years ago. However, this lady could have become a Christian....and now is very remorseful, but you need to know that, and she needs to ask for your forgiveness. I know exactly what it’s like to be sad at a child’s wedding. It was different to you, but when my daughter got married, things weren’t right. We nearly didn’t go. Then someone said to me, if we didn’t go, we could never get it back. It would be there forever. I was worried if we did go, it would give us a whole set of bad memories. It did, but at least we are fine now, not sure we would have been, had we not gone, but I can’t have a wedding picture up at the moment. It was four years ago. Just go and do the best you can. You may find yourself pleasantly surprised. Your daughter knows what you’ve done for her, this wedding is one day out of a lifetime, and I’ve found with my daughter, it has paled into insignificance.