Well, this post has finally (after just bing the site for a long time, to join you Gransnetters!
I was married for over 40 years when I discovered my husband cheating. Long, painful story, denying it, all in your mind etc etc.
Of course there were grown up Children and also grandchildren. He couldn’t see he’d done anything wrong as it was “what he wanted”. Never apologised for making me ill, never shown any remorse. Of course it’s been a lot more complicated that this but this is enough info.
Recently(3+years) my son announced his intention to remarry. Asked if his dad was invited - had decided - then yes. I’d suggested leaving both of us out so no awkwardness.
Answer - no, both invited. I immediately panicked and thought no way (son lives abroad so it would have had to be longer than a one day event) however Covid has been my saviour as no one can travel from the UK.
Now I’ve seen this thread and boy, has it helped me. I really believe that if we’d still been able to go, I would have, after all your comments of encouragement . I would have held my head up, been proud of my children, grandchildren and myself. So thank you.