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Going back to the gym AIBU

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TBsNana Thu 27-Aug-20 15:13:19

Hello ladies,
Before lockdown I was an avid gym-goer. My exercise routine hugely improved my fitness and especially helped with the arthritis in my knees.
Lockdown has been bad for my fitness as I have had to rely on Pilates indoors which is good but not enough. Walking is painful for me - especially when I'm not doing my gym routine so I haven't been able to walk much instead.
Anyhow the gym is open again, but DH has dared me to go back saying it poses too great risk . He hates the gym anyhow and is always lecturing me about how it's unnecessary!
I feel really trapped and miserable, and am the nearest to being depressed that I have ever been. I am also somewhat aggrieved as DH does outdoorsy stuff and has carried on with all that so isn't suffering a loss of fitness
So i plan to go back surreptitiously....I hate the deceit, but the arrangements at the gym look really good. If I don't go back I feel my physical and mental health are just going to continue to decline. Save my self or please DH????

Oopsadaisy4 Thu 27-Aug-20 15:22:17

If you want to go, just go, stick to the rules regarding precautions.

You’re his wife not a child so tell him , don’t ask permission.

GrannyGravy13 Thu 27-Aug-20 15:22:34

I have been back to my gym since it opened. The Covid measures are scrupulously adhered to and I feel safe.
I have asthma and early stage osteoporosis and being back has lifted me physically and mentally.

Smileless2012 Thu 27-Aug-20 15:27:04

I still haven't been back to my gym TBsNanna and have been doing exercises at home with free weights. It does make a huge difference when regular exercising ceases to your physical and mental health.

I wouldn't go back "surreptitiously" I'd tell your H that's what you're doing and why. I can understand you feeling aggrieved that your H's been able to pursue his own interests and is trying to prevent you from doing the same.

Save yourself or please your H? Save yourself.

rafichagran Thu 27-Aug-20 15:27:53

Go back and enjoy it, and I hope it lifts your mood. Follow the precautions they have on place and you will be ok.

Please dont do it surtuptiosly, as someone is bound to see you and mention it to him. Also dont ask him, tell him you are going back, you dont need his permission.

TBsNana Thu 27-Aug-20 18:04:31

Thankyou everyone - helpful to know that you don't think my need to get exercising is unreasonable. As for DH ....well we will have to see - I'm sure it will all come out OK eventually!

Bellanonna Thu 27-Aug-20 18:52:28

Like you, OP, I have been doing indoor pilates. However I did go back to the gym last week and was very impressed with the measures in place. We even placed our mats horizontally to ensure more space between neighbours. We came in one way, escorted by the tutor, and left by a different route. Temperatures were taken on arrival and sanitiser was freely available. I had to book on the dot at 7am and by 10 past apparently the class, which is now reduced in size, was full.
Please go. Tell your husband. Don’t ask his permission,