Aibu to think people really don’t get it?

Such difficult times for all, despite being careful.

Do not beat yourself up, mums always tend to blame themselves.

Keep loving & praying, always HOPE.

Take care and here's to you all feeling better soon

Youcantchoosethem thinking about you and your very difficult situation. I do hope everything turns out well for you and your loved ones. My sister had a blood test today and she was appalled at the attitude of the nurse. She didn't believe that covid existed. She was against the vaccinations and told my sister she wasn't going to have one. With attitudes like hers we will never beat this. It leaves me speechless.

So sorry to hear you're ill. But just a suggestion, as you're the one supposed to be isolated, not the family: can't your partner take over the child care and cooking? He/she will certainly have to if your condition gets worse (I hope it doesn't!) but you really shouldn't have to do cooking etc just now.

To the OP- hoping you feel better soon, and I agree that some of us don't take the risk or the regs. seriously enough.
Talking to younger daughter on the phone last night, she gave me a much deserved correction about my more relaxed attitude.
Not about someone who has the virus, but about family visits.

Hoping and praying for a full and fast recovery

Such a sad post to read, people just do not realise how it would affect them for sure. Sending all best wishes for a speedy recovery and that no one else gets infected. Rest, drink plenty of water and try to relax as much as you possibly can. flowers

Would it not be better to open windows etc to get a flow of air rather than using aerosols, which I would have thought would be bad for asthma? Wear masks, even in the house (or is that a problem with asthma? There was a programme months ago showing different families coping with having the virus and the lady who was concerned about the fact she had asthma was actually fine: the asthma didn’t seem to affect her more than the other people in the programme. Do you have an oximeter so you can monitor your oxygen level? Please keep posting on here so we can know that you’re ok x

Sending you every good wish in your difficult situation right now - I hope you feel better soon both physically and emotionally

I am so sorry for your situation.
I wish some of the journalists who supposedly prowl these pages would take up your letter and publicise it; a raw account of dealing with the effects of covid and managing without help whilst being ill. The rebel MPs need to see this account as well; I am sick of hearing about the impact of closing pubs and depriving people of their civil liberties.

Would it be possible for your kind friend to take your son
for just a few days so that you could take to your bed and get some sleep and rest, the better to cope with the illness? You do have to look after yourself, and you are in such a difficult situation; two days complete rest would really help.
The very best of luck.

PJN1952 So sorry to hear of your DD. One of our friends, who was really fit running marathons before, had it earlier in the year and has ended up having to have surgery on his lungs to help drain them because of long term issues, even though the first couple of weeks were mild. It really is the unknown isn’t it.

@ Callistemon he can’t come into the kitchen as that would mean using closed areas without good ventilation so he has three rooms upstairs and I bring up food to the landing and when I retreat on the stairs he comes out and we peek along the landing to see each other (well see being not quite as wearing mask etc!) I don’t feel I can risk other areas for him because I know how chesty he gets and how he is with his asthma - so taking one day at a time and trying our best. Have managed to get a shopping slot for weds so we can get more easy/ready meals x

What a horrible time for you - so sorry to hear that your life has become really difficult for you and your family.
I wish I had some clever words of comfort - but I will send soe flowers. I hope this passes soon. xx

Re read your last sentence. This is mild (and is for most people)...look after yourself, try not to get too depressed as it hampers recovery..and hoping you get well very soon.?

Youcantchoosethem, thank you for coming on here to highlight just how serious this virus can be. You’re right that so many people ‘just don’t get it’.
Hope that you and your son feel lots better soon and that the infection doesn’t spread to the rest of your family.
As others have said, try not to worry and get plenty of rest.

And of course for you

I think you are right ycct in that it takes terrible focus to really 'get it'. Understandably the media (haven't avoided but) aren't crammed with the distressing personal stories. It's tough enough to deal with what we do know. Perhaps this is what happened with the 1918-on epidemic and others that faded from our consciousness.

In contrast there is the long-term impact of the arts in showing the UK WW1 experience - all that literature, painting, sculpture, music, film. I think the some of the bereaved from this epidemic are already working towards having a public memorial that may speak to this.

I hope you can recover quickly. My DD and SIL had the virus in late March and the symptoms were not too bad. DD is asthmatic and sadly she is still experiencing unpleasant symptoms. She is v tired, has low iron, has palpitations and chest pains - twice she has been blue-lighted to hospital with suspected heart attack but it is her heart muscle in spasm. Long Covid is a real problem for many folk and is not understood yet. I believe this virus will affect her for a long time to come. ☹️

I hope you make a speedy recovery and that the rest of the family stay negative. Just keep thinking of all the things you are going to do for Christmas and into the summer to keep your mind away from negative thoughts. xx

Sending much love and all good wishes to you and all your family!

Wishing you a good recovery, Youcantchoosethem and I hope no-one else has caught it.

You do need to rest as much as possible, so is your son able to help himself to ready food and perhaps microwave some ready meals just for the time being? Let's hope it will be just for a short time before you feel better.

You said your son takes too much food. Would it be possible to bag up things like a serving of cereal and leave it on the work top for him to have - possibly labelled with his name and the day ? If you do a weeks worth at a time and then hide the ones for the other days and put them out the evening before so he can at least get himself breakfast so that if you haven't slept well you can at least grab a couple of hours extra sleep if needed?
Can you reach out to any support groups in your area ? You may well be surprised what they can come up with to help you!
Very best wishes to you all and hope that you feel so much better soon.

I’m sure you already know this but are you all taking vitamin D

Sending and all very best wishes to you and your family. I do hope the virus remains a mild case and you recover soon. x

@daisymae he does normally help himself to some things but wouldn’t be able to do a dinner or anything like that, but can’t risk him going through to the kitchen. If anything normally he tries to take too much and eats the wrong things and have to hide things to make sure he doesn’t eat too much sugar/sweets and then not his dinner so I suppose an upside is that at the moment I can control more of the snacks and treats! He is actually coping remarkably at the moment - we’ve certainly had some very upset times and he’s scared of what might happen and I have been sitting on the stairs at times to talk to him at a distance to reassure him but I do think he realises now that he has to be careful too. He knows how much he coughs with his asthma and how an attack feels so we are both wary. Still mild today so that’s a positive - just a more sore throat today added.

Don't know how much your son could do, but maybe you could show him how to get some cereal, yoghurt or make toast if you are poorly in the future. I wonder though whether it would be better to take your friend up in her kind offer? For most people it's relatively mild and I really hope you are one of those.

What a difficult situation

Hope you and your family will recover soon