Hostessing on Christmas Day

I too will be doing lions share of stuff in our house for xmas day& boxing day, as my sons 17& 22 both have a disability, but there are some things i suppose they can do if i ask, but i find You HAVE to ask- it doesn't occur to them otherwise, so maybe you could try ask Carenza123? But i know they can manage some stuff as i was very very ill last xmas so they rang their siblings and managed to knock up the xmas dinner by themselves(after a fashion) with much advice- so this year ill ask for their help if i need it! And I dont even have anyone to make me the dinners and just deliver them! So your day should be a piece of (xmas) cake Carenza123!!??

Lucca-???

not quite sure what your problem is, are you not happy looking after your husband and sister, believe me there are so many so much worse off, sounds like you wont even need to do much cooking

Goodness don’t feel like that. They are probably so used to you doing things for them they’ve got out of the habit of doing it for themselves. If I have my mother and father in law for a visit and offer tea he asks my mother in law what he takes in his tea !!! Because he doesn’t know he never makes it for himself !!! Gasp!

I'm sorry. Are you usually sitting and being served. Maybe you would like your daughter to stay and save you having to get up from your chair a couple of times. Are both your guests totally helpless.???

What Avitor 1 said.

When I have to run around I always tell myself I’m getting exercise and burning off calories and I’m lucky as if I sit too long I stiffen up ( usually have 17 for Christmas,but not this year) I’m 74———- make sure you start your day with champagne and orange juice and go from there,good luck.

There’s nothing more embarrassing than being in the home of a reluctant hostess. Just grit your teeth and be gracious - at least you don’t have to cook.

Carenza123

Come on now, none of this is as bad as you imagine. All you have to do is stand up, walk around a bit greet your kind daughter, sit down and enjoy the meal that she has prepared for you all, then sleep.

Which is the difficult bit?

Dear me. I like many, many others have had family Christmas holiday cancelled, so Christmas alone.

Be thankful dear lady.
Happy Christmas, love and light.

I hope you get a chance to relax Carenza123. Have a lovely Christmas.

Callistemon: We're all disappointed though, aren't we? But try not to think we're the only ones. Just a thought.

Lucky you. All the hard work is being done for you.

Carenza123

AIBU when I say I am not looking forward to Christmas Day? We are staying in our home rather than going to our daughter and son-in-laws for Christmas Day because of covid. Our daughter is preparing dinner for three of us and she is delivering three Christmas dinners to us at our house about 10 minutes from her home. My husband 74 and I, 72, are having his sister (80) at ours. Thing is, husband and sister walk with a stick and I know I will be up and down most of the day, as the hostess, waiting on my husband and sister as basically I am the fittest.

Make sure you have a good book and immediately after the xmas meal develop a raging headache and go to bed with your book It's irrelevant whether or not YABU, that's a solution for you. I like goal-oriented solutions :D

As someone who will be run ragged on Christmas day I have no sympathy for someone who is having a meal delivered to them!

72 yrs is not old. You are probably over thinking it. Relax and enjoy your prepared meal and the company.

Thank you Puzzler61, in which case I’d say to the OP, enjoy, but make sure you don’t anti bac the food by mistake!

Youcantchoosethem
Laughing about the Labrador - this was a spaniel, just as greedy!
Then there was the half pound of butter my Mum left to warm on the hearth when we were staying one Christmas. He enjoyed that too.

You are lucky having such a lovely DD. I had to cater for 4 oldies and 3 DSs and usually felt knackered by Boxing Day. Now we 2 oldies usually stay on our own at Christmas- no choice this year anyway.

Lulubelle500

Comments aren't exactly brimming over with Christmas kindness....

Well, perhaps because posters are disappointed that they may not be hosting Christmas, cooking and looking after family because they are not allowed or family are overseas.

Or even devastated because not every member of their family is still with us on Christmas Day.

Just a thought.

Callistemon

Lucca

Gordon Bennett

Is he going as well?

It's only one day
Who does it all the rest of the time- have you given the staff the day off?
That is kind.

I used to find a trolley was useful until the day the dog wolfed down all the sandwiches and cake from the bottom layer while I was making the tea.

Loved this one about the dog! It did make me laugh. Our old Labrador would eat anything possible - I remember one time getting out a chicken to defrost whilst I was at work as we had family over in the evening (oh those were the days!) and coming home and searching for the chicken. Couldn't find it anywhere but did eventually find a 10p piece sized bit of plastic in her bed - the only evidence that she had eaten the lot - packaging and all! Quick visit to the vet... thankfully she was fine! Happy Christmas all. Won't add anything else to the thread as what I would say has already been said by others...

pretend you're asleep after your lovely dinner.

Comments aren't exactly brimming over with Christmas kindness....

DiscoDancer I heard the question asked on yesterday’s briefing about cooking a meal and delivering it to someone. In tier 4 it is only if absolutely necessary i.e. to a vulnerable person as other journeys are discouraged.
Otherwise , generally, Yes you can, but keep everything clean, sterilised, lots of hand washing during preparation etc.
Recipients can wipe the foil or clingfilm with an antibacterial wipe when they get it in their home.

Good gracious - someone is having a laugh at our expense aren’t they? This CAN’T be real!

Divide the labour and make sure that OH and sister-in-law feel they're contributing, so ask him/them to set the table, and clear away while you do the serving. I expect that the rest of the day will be pretty much as normal Glad you have such a considerate daughter who's disturbing her Christmas Day to bring the hot meals over to you, although I'm sure she'll feel she wants to do this.