It’s a very odd time for us all just now isn’t it? You can’t help how you feel at all and no good can come from feeling guilty, what’s done is done. The timing wasn’t great, but we can’t always control how and when these things will affect us.
You jumped quite quickly to your family thinking you were “making it all about you”, if you don’t mind me asking, is this something that’s been said to you before?
If so maybe try practicing some breathing exercises? Like you I get quite teary when feeling any emotion (anger, fear, frustration - the lot) and although I can’t control my feelings what I can (now) control is how I react and display them. Breathing exercises helped me with that.
My reason for working on that was because my gran would try to emotionally manipulate everyone with tears and I didn’t want to do that to my family (in no way am I suggesting this is something you do or have done - just saying why I looked at how I behaved).
I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend and hope you feel a bit better having a vent on here.
Good Morning Saturday 20th April 2024
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic