I don’t need a reply just needed to tell someone

What a bullying slapper person she is.
I would definitely follow all the advise above, get in touch with every organisation you can think of to help. Tell the Police that you are afraid of her and think that the aggression may intensify if she isn't spoken to.
Don't allow this horrible "woman" to make your anxiety worse, ignore the stupid, childish things she said.
Sending hugs ? ?

I have just read your update - she sounds seriously bonkers!

That is dreadful - truly dreadful. I am sorry you had to endure this.

You know in your heart of hearts that this woman is in the wrong, that she is not someone to be respected.

I hope that you can rise above this and carry on. But I do understand how hard it must be for you to have such an unpleasant neighbour.

Confrontation is always hard and makes everyone feel tense and crushed.

What a dreadful thing to happen to you.She is obviously a horrible Bully ,picking on someone she knows to be vulnerable,remind yourself that you are loved and appreciated by people who really matter to you and find some comfort in that.
I recently rang Age Concern because I was feeling vulnerable and the person I spoke to was very kind and supportive.

She sounds horrendous, and full of plastic, yeuch. She’s going to dry up a lot quicker having all that done. I remember years ago, on a beach in Italy, this crinkled old lady lying on a sun lounger, well ‘ cooked’. Looked like ‘ Madge’ from ‘ Benidorm’. The only thing was, she had these huge plastic boobs which had obviously not aged like she had. My husband nearly threw up?. I’m so sorry you went through that, but just put that image in your mind, with this girl’s face on it. Eventually, she’ll be a pair of lips, bum and boobs. That’s if she gets that far, and it doesn’t all need removing. Her poor husband and children. Feel sorry for them.

Sorry, didn’t see your updates.

Please keep badgering the police. Don’t wait for any more harassment, although it’s a good idea to keep a record as Monica says. Our NHW has told us all to phone 999 if anything like this happens. We were told the police want to know. Get your local MP involved too, the council, anyone you can think of. These brain dead morons need to be removed from law abiding decent people. How awful for you, I am so sorry. I do hope it all settles down. Just remember, you can walk away from people like this. She has to look at herself in the mirror every day.?

Ohmother

You can also call Age Concern for back up about the coercive control. You need protection from her and as she has a history it should be easier to get help. Come on girl; you can do it! ??

Cross posting!! ?

What a dreadful experience, and also a horrible pattern of behaviour.

I'm glad the police are investigating the party and are to send you a crime reference number. You are now on record with them, which is good.

I agree with what the others have said about social services and coercive control. Would it be useful to contact Age UK? They have all sorts of expertises that might be able to help, to point you in the right direction, and to act as an advocate - sometimes "authorities" listen more to us when we have an expert body on our side.

You can also call Age Concern for back up about the coercive control. You need protection from her and as she has a history it should be easier to get help. Come on girl; you can do it! ??

What a horrible experience, it must have left you very shaken and upset.
Reading your 2nd post it seems clear that your neighbours demand that you buy presents for her family even though you are not related to them and she also knows you have lost your job is clear Elder Abuse.
This is taken very seriously by Social Services, please call them as soon as the offices are open next week, there will be a phone number on your council website, if you feel you need support in the meantime there is usually someone on duty that you can talk to.

She looks like Kim Kardashian who is her idol, She Dresses like her in tiny tight tops and leather pants or tiny skirts and has had lots of work done her lips are very big as are her boobs and bottom .
She just kept saying look at me I am beautiful you are dirty old and dried up nutter. Go shag your dead husband no man alive would want you. I know she was right ( but am not dirty ) but I don’t want a man I still miss my husband that’s why I am alone.
She has had many affairs and once told her husband she had spend the night at mine and I got very upset asking her not to use me.
She is a receptionist at a private dentist that my Dc go to They love the dentist but she has threatened to get the stuck off so i don’t want to involve my family,
Grammaretto she was once in social (emergency) housing as she was evicted from her last home but she moved here. She actually comes over as sweet until somone doesnt do what she wants then she is like a fish wife.
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I’m sorry you’ve had to put up with such abuse, Pinkjj27.

Your second post, expanding on your relationship with this person, suggests to me that she’s using coercive control on you. That’s now a crime and any evidence you have such as texts could be very useful for police and/or council, should the situation escalate further.

if you still have those texts from her, keep them. it shews a pattern of behaviour.
also if your phone is able to record, practice how to do that in a hurry, so as to be ready for any more onslaughts.
do not open your door to anyone. shout through the door, or a window. be careful of the letterbox, put a heavy large cloth hanging over it inside.
try not to be drawn in to any dealings with her.
good luck.
imagine a phalanx of GNers marching around your house, maroon shields glinting in the wintry sun, with battle-axes held aloft, crying, hurrah for the pink one.

She sounds like the neighbour from HELL! I am so sorry you have been dealt this woman in life's lottery.
She is definitely the one with "Issues" not you.
I hope the police or Samaritans can help.
Are any of your DC available for a chat or any friends?
It sounds as though this awful woman has the whole street terrified of her.

I once had a dysfunctional family living in social (emergency) housing nearby and my DD was frightened to walk past because of the verbal abuse and bad language.
Eventually she/they was rehoused.

You could threaten this person with eviction I suppose.

Glad we've helped you to feel less alone. We don't always spend our time arguing about politics!

Just call on the massed ranks of GNers and we'll come round and sort her out!

Get on the phone to the police again and get a name rank and number and insist that they come out.

Gosh thank you.
Wheniwasyourage crazyH I am private she is council.
Grannynannywanny Yes I do get on well with other neighbours, I did consider letting them know ( if they didn’t see or hear it) But people don’t like to get involved.
gulligranny Yes I am ok thank you, just trying to forget it but she picked on everything I am insecure about.
silverlining48Ohmother* thank you
Sarnia I was actually friends with her. Which is why she knew my vulnerabilities/ insecurities. I would always buy her kids presents on birthdays, Easter Halloween and Christmas, but then at the very start of COVID she began bossing me about, telling me I had to stockpile and how disgusting I was for not preparing ( she seemed to being taking COVID-19_ very seriously last Jan/ February.) However then in lock down she just went wild, holding parties, BQs gettogethers hugging people passing by so on. Ion the other hand went into lockdown I saw no one, I never went out expect for a walk .
I lost my job due to COVID. I teach A-levels and they closed the course. She taxed me in March and asked me when I was going to buy her son a birthday gift. I explained that I had lost my job and she said “so? you can’t let a child down he doesnt understand that you have lost your job he is expecting a gift. Buy him a gift now or we are done” . She called me a selfish old cow. I must admit I did tell her to do one and I didn’t mince my words.
I havent spoken to her since March. She texted me in December asking me if I was going to buy her boys a gift and what they wanted. I ignored it, this year has been hard and I havent been well I Struggled to get my own 7 grandkids gifts.
she had parties all over Christmas with about 20 people every time.Last night was massive around 70 people.

Update the police did ring me back and say they are still investigating the party and they will email me a crime number. They also said if I am upset speak to the Samaritians, they said ring 999 if it happens again. They added that can’t come out as she didn’t actually hit me (she went to but I got the door shut in time) They were very kind but can’t do anything.
I am touched by all the replies thank you I don’t feel so alone now.
If I havent mentioned your name it’s because I got a bit overwhelmed but thank you taking the time to answer.

Great advice M0nica

Phone your police station again and repeat your complaint, and take the name and rank of the person you are speaking to. Then ask for the name and contact details of the Police and Crime Commissioner (PCC). They are elected and one of their functions is to deal with complaints about local policing. Elections are due to be held this year, postponed from las, so they will be anxious to be seen to be doing their very well-paid job.
It is disgraceful that the police have said they can do nothing; they may well be short-staffed but they can arrange for someone to visit you and reassure you; you have been verbally abused and threatened, and the girl causing the abuse needs to be warned.
A friend's dog, on a leash, was attacked recently by a muzzled but off the leash dog; her dog bit the dog to defend herself; the other owner complained, and the police had visited both owners and taken statements by the end of the afternoon.
Too many excuses from the police.

Write a statement about what happened. Sign it and date it and hereafter keep a record in writing of every single incident of harrassment that occurs, no matter how small, and use it when it would be to your advantage.

That`s very brave of the scum bag pinkjj27.
I bet if you were around her age she wouldn`t have had the guts.
Your vulnerable and she/it knows it.
Please do report her and tell the council it was their advice .

I had problems with threatening behaviour from a Nottingham Knocker. I reported the incident because I was worried about people older than me and more vulnerable experiencing this. When the police hear I was over 50 they classed me as vulnerable, recorded the incident and gave me a Crime number. This apparently makes it easier for them to take action if he shows up again. The behaviour of your neighbour is definitely harassment and the police should take it more seriously.

Pinkjj27 I am sorry you had such a horrible experience with your next door neighbour, the woman sounds like she has a
nasty horrible vile mouth and said those things to you in an effort to frighten and scare you.
Are you council or housing association because there will be rules for where you live. In social housing you need to contact your housing officer and report this and it will be recorded as Anti-Social Behaviour the same goes for the council and they are quite hot on this. The police are always there if you need them and they should have treated your call much better. Your neighbour could find herself in trouble from her actions and could even be evicted.
Hope you are feeling better.

Have you had problems with them before? To me they sound like a selfish lot who have done a wonderful job of bringing up their daughter to be respectful to others. This needs reporting otherwise they will consider you a fair target for the future. Get on the phone pronto.